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Post by Truro on Dec 4, 2006 19:48:46 GMT
THat's good. Make sure you accept their offers, as much as possible, and keep in mind what I said about confidence, and conversation, and you'll be fine.
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Post by Assassin on Jan 20, 2007 21:37:24 GMT
I just realized something. A complete failure is what I am. I've never won anything in my life, I can't do anything halfway decent, plus I can never hope to achieve my lifelong dream. Can anyone offer some advice on how to not be a complete loser?
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Post by Alaric on Jan 20, 2007 21:59:19 GMT
Well, for starters, you can stop thinking of yourself as a loser. You need to get a better perception of yourself. Think positively. Don't dwell on what you can't do, but take pride in what you can do. Focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses. Or if you must focus on your weaknesses, find a way to turn them into strengths. And wear sunscreen. You are not a loser. You are not a failure. Trust me, these feelings will pass. Until then, either ignore them or use them to improve your life. Don't give into them.
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Post by JimBobDunnie on Jan 20, 2007 22:33:26 GMT
As a Christian, I'm told that God puts us on this Earth for a reason. Everyone has a special use.
For example, we all have this talent, right? We're born with it, we die with it. To some, though, that Talent may take a while to surface. Y'know, you may find your a damn good sports player at 21 for example. These talents are not just blatent ones though like 'Alarics talents are to make people laugh'. For all we know, his could be leadership or something. You've just got to think what that talent is. You did good with those adaptations back in the day, perhaps something linked to that? Or perhaps your good when it comes to crises', are you calm when the heats on? Who knows...well you do, but needless the point. You've got to find out for yourself.
Also, if you do happen to find your talent, never give up on it. You may not be good at it straight away, but work on it. Lets take Old Bean for example. Look at any early piece of Sodor Studios work and he's always a driver, signalman or something 'low key'. Come now and he's one of the best at the moment. Keep at it, and you will get results.
Just keep you faith in it, and you will do well. Just remember, you are Assassin, you are a human being, you can do anything.
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Post by Devious Diesel on Jan 20, 2007 22:39:37 GMT
Remember this...there's no such word as "Can't" *gets bombarded by numerous dictionaries*.
Everyone is good for something. You just need to find it. And thinking yourself as a failure will get you nowhere...trust me, I've been down that alleyway many a time.
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Post by Ryan on Jan 21, 2007 0:25:05 GMT
Pretty much as everyone else has said above - keep a positive outlook. You never achieve anything if you don't try, and to keep beating yourself up about these kind of things is stupid. When you get knocked down, don't lie there and dwell on it, use it to your advantage and turn the situation round. If anything "failure" is a bigger driving force for me than anything else. We learn from it, and we come back from it stronger than ever if we look at it the right way.
Above all else though, don't compare yourself to other people. From the amount of people who have posted in support of you, including myself, its you we've grown to like having around - not someone you want to be.
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Post by Assassin on Jan 22, 2007 1:29:23 GMT
Don't dwell on what you can't do, but take pride in what you can do. That's just it. I feel lousy because I don't feel like I'm good at anything.
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Post by RustyFanatic05 on Jan 22, 2007 1:59:13 GMT
Don't dwell on what you can't do, but take pride in what you can do. That's just it. I feel lousy because I don't feel like I'm good at anything. Well surely you must be good at something. Think deeply, isn't there at least something that you're good at?
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Post by Alaric on Jan 22, 2007 2:00:12 GMT
That's just it. I feel lousy because I don't feel like I'm good at anything. You're good at being a friend. That's something to be proud of. Like Ryan said, we like having you around. So you must be doing something right. Like the old saying goes, 'No one can do everything, but everyone can do something'. Some talents aren't as obvious as others. I don't pretend to know what you're like in real life, but on the forum you're a funny, friendly, helpful guy who contributes to the forum through reviews and entertaining posts. And as far as I'm concerned, those are good skills. You wanna know what you're good at? You're good at being a person. Not all of us can make that claim. So don't worry about not being good at anything, because even if you don't realise it, you are.
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Post by Aidan on Jan 22, 2007 2:41:07 GMT
You know, Assassin, I've been feeling the same way that you are, but every time I feel a bit down, I just remember that one song: Always Look on the Bright Side of Life.
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Post by Ronnie on Jan 22, 2007 3:27:44 GMT
Alright, here is my situation.
I've always tended to keep a low profile in school, and because of this I really never made any good friends. People have spread rumors about me, and whenever I try to do something, I often end up embarrassing myself. I'm not looking for a ton of attention, but at least an occasional acknowledgement like "Hey Ronnie, what's up". Is it too late to turn myself around, or will I always get the s---, uh, bad end of the stick?
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Post by Sodor18 on Jan 22, 2007 7:48:40 GMT
Ronnie my man, it's never too late.
When I started high school, I didn't have many friends. Halfway through Year 9, I met some people in drama class, and we were firm friends until I left at the end of Year 10.
My advice, Find a group of people with the sane interests as you, get to know them, and I'm sure that you'll be great friends. Don't forget that you've still got us.
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Post by Locomotive on Jan 22, 2007 8:55:28 GMT
Sodor18 is right Ronnie, its never too late to make new friends, but also I would totally ignore those rumors and whoever believes them arent worth the effort. You just have to be confident and to believe in yourself=)
Wish I could say the same for me though, but my problem works a little differently, as I shall explain... I have been a Duelist (YuGiOh) for some time now, back then it was actually enjoyable and loved a challenege, which I had always craved for. However, that's up until I encountered a certain type of duelist, the kind that use the same decks as each other (Those who know the term "Cookie-Cutter decks" will know what I'm talking about), these duelist copy the same deck as each other just because it has a high win-chance, and they are almost impossible to beat.
Heres the problem, I have been dueling for so long, and have been trying to come up with a good strategy against these heartless Cookie-Cutter duelists (Yes, they are like that), its not that I cant live with a loss, cause I really dont mind, the problem is that I suddenly came to a stage where dueling wasnt as joyful as it used to. Its like its been milking me for all I'm worth and now there is nothing left, not even the Elemental Heroes could help me regain my enjoyment, and I dont want to quit one of my main interests.
Anyone have any ideas as to how to get the spark back? I enter a prerelease on the 24th February, if I cant get that spark back then I am ultimately scrapped as a duelist -_-
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Post by Ryan on Jan 22, 2007 16:11:03 GMT
Don't dwell on what you can't do, but take pride in what you can do. That's just it. I feel lousy because I don't feel like I'm good at anything. I'm going to back up what Alaric's told you here. Although it might seem a bit bare, it's really not when you think about it. People like you for who you are, and that's a real strength. From what I know of you on here, you're an invaluable source of support and encouragement to name but one quality you have. We all go through that point in our lives where we lose confidence in ourselves. I've been there many times before in the past, as I'm sure we all have. You mainly draw it from comparisons with other people, and the way they're revered and admired. For example, the Old Bean for examples of his voice acting, Alaric for his humour, Christopher for his editing skills, and so on. Strip those qualities down, and think about them. The Bean excells with animating character personalities such as TFC or the out and out villains, who he plays very well; try thinking about this - how well would he manage a character like James, Percy or Thomas? He's never asked to play those kind of characters, so there, he's not good at everything. And to begin with, before I started doing it, I was comparing my editing skills with The Bean, Christopher and Kate669's. Knowing how well they had managed their work really put me off doing my own videos/audios until I bit the bullet and tried it. Now I'm producing more music videos and finished two huge audio dubs, with plans for more. The same could have been said when I took over the forum from Fat Hatt, I was dubious of the future and now look at it, more visitors, activity and members than ever, and this is the product of someone who was made to feel like they were a problem by past staff members ( who should have been recognising the problem's origins as themselves). Those little doubts at the back of my mind held me back for so long, and when I finally overcame them, wonderful things happened. The point I'm trying to make here - you don't know what you're capable of, not until you try doing it. Comparing yourself to other people, putting yourself down and not carrying on would be a failure. You don't need to be the best at anything, you only need to have the confidence inside you to know you can do it well, or at least you can do it. And if you can't do that, here's a top bit of advice for you - try to stop being self-concious. We all like having you around, regardless of what you're good at and what you're not!
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Post by Cläy on Jan 23, 2007 1:42:31 GMT
Ronnie - don't sweat it. I was the same - quiet, reserved, few friends. But if you just be yourself and don't try to be something you're not, people should (I stress here, should) come to appreciate you for you, not you for what they want you to be. I admit though, in my case, a solo karaoke performace in a Year 10 camp raised my popularity to the nth degree. If you want to make a fool of yourself like that, then go ahead. I'm not arguing with the results. A few similarities to me again, Locomotive. Except I play Magic: The Gathering instead of Yu-Gi-Oh. I simply couldn't keep up with the changing trends and such in MTG and have basically abandoned the constructed game - which is what it looks like you're struggling with. The limited game, where you turn up, pay and get your cards on the spot, is much more appealing to me, because everyone has a different deck and no two events are the same. You don't have to quit Yu-Gi-Oh, but if you're not getting as much enjoyment as you used to, tone it down a bit. Go to less tourneys, play less games, even abandon it completely for a month or so before picing up the cards again. See if that returns the magic. Alternatively, you could quit Yu-Gi-Oh and play Magic instead But yeah, just town it down for a while and see if you miss playing as much as you did. If you don't, then it's no big loss.
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Post by Cranky Conner on Jan 23, 2007 16:38:40 GMT
Here's an idea Locomotive. Try to take note of what cards these duelists play. That way you can work out a strategy to outiwt them. To quote Avenger (from the book of the same name): You can never know too much about your opponent.
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Post by Locomotive on Jan 24, 2007 21:11:16 GMT
Here's an idea Locomotive. Try to take note of what cards these duelists play. That way you can work out a strategy to outiwt them. To quote Avenger (from the book of the same name): You can never know too much about your opponent.Oh you dont know HOW long I have done that, I know those decks off by heart, and I know EXACTLY what makes them tick, but I STILL lose, and fall for the same old tricks time and time again. Even worse is that there arent a lot of cards that can bring them down, right now I am hoping for the card makers for cards with "Destruction Immunity" (Cards that cannot be destroyed by effects), but right now there arent a lot xP xD I do play Magic: The Gathering, just not as often as YuGiOh, I'll give you a hint, ever heard of "Raven Guild Master"? my prize card and Deck master >=) (if there was one for this game). Right, now for my reply to these comments, I dont know what you mean by "Changing trends", but if you mean too many releases, this I am ok with (So long as they dont release a "Tournament Winners Starter Deck", which would be my worst nightmare), but if you mean like when times change and one deck becomes famous, yes that is one of my problems, as these decks are annoying and un-original. Anyway, after tonight, I think I am starting to grow back a little bit, returning to a deck of "Ancient Gear" cards was a great decison, more or less I dont know how long that will last, but at least I know I am somewhat getting somewhere.
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Post by Assassin on Feb 14, 2007 6:03:52 GMT
I'm having yet ANOTHER problem. I'm so freaking jealous of freakin' everything. Every time I see the names of a certain five people on DeivantART I just feel like breaking something. The main problem is that no matter how much I practice at something, I don't get any better. I've been drawing since I was 5, but my sister, who's 3 years younger than me, and hasn't been drawing nearly as long is SO much better than I could ever hope to be. May I quote some comments I've seen her get:
"You are one of the most multi talented people I've ever seen"
"I'm so jealous of your ability"
"I wish I was as good as you are"
Plus all this deals with my supreme lack of talent at anything. What should I do to get rid of these lousy feelings? Yeah, yeah, I know I'm an emo...
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Post by Nanaki on Feb 14, 2007 14:56:58 GMT
Pfft, you're not emo. I've seen emo (and trust me, they don't get jealous, just morbidly depressed). What you are is talent-aware. You see everybody else's talent but not your own. What you should do is use those feelings as fuel to try to make yourself improve on your own art. Instead of saying "Dang, she's good, I'm nowhere near her standards," say "She's alright, but I bet I can do better!" Not too long ago, I had a similar problem. I turned in an essay for my World History teacher and got a 100. Then a girl turned in a 2-page essay and got 400 out of 100. I wish I was joking, but that grade's apparently possible. I obviously got jealous (I worked for two days on my essay!) but instead of crawling into an emo corner, I decided to practice writing more and get up to her level, and possibly exceed her.
I need some advice too, so here it goes: my mom's dating this guy, and he's pretty nice, funny, and rich like crazymad. But he's....um...I wanna say racist, prejudice, impatient...but that seems kinda rude, so I'll just say he's not the most worldly and cultured person out there. Not to mention he touched my mom where I didn't find right and he cussed at me. I don't really like him and I don't think my mom's safe around him. What should I do?
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Post by Christopher on Feb 14, 2007 19:06:53 GMT
Well, Nanaki, if you're really concerned about your Mum, maybe you ought to talk to her about it. Ask her how she truly feels about being with this new boyfriend of hers and tell her also about how he treats you as well. And if in doubt, try to get in touch with another family member who might try and talk some sense into this person. Probably like an Uncle or something; someone who everyone knows and will always listen to. That's my advice, really, and I hope it'll work. OK, now it’s time for me to bring something up… I’ve had this nagging, dreading thought since the last stressful weeks of my first year at Uni. I know that I achieved well in some modules, but my best wasn’t good enough thanks to the disorganisation of one fuss bucket teacher, resulting me in getting a bad mark on one module and having to resit it again this year with the same teacher. This, of course, is kind of common to some other lessons I had where teachers just gave you handouts instead of a proper Student Handbook and not properly explain the deadlines or scheduled weeks to us students. What’s really bothering me this year is another module that I was forced to do, which I disliked as it has the same tedious “needs” and “must-haves” like most of my other lessons (Group work, Research, Designing something for a particular audience, etc) so I wanted to try for something I could really enjoy. Creative Writing was my only option as I wanted to expand my writing skills a bit. But no. That again is another complication where I ask several different teachers if I could change one module for another and they each gave me several difficult answers, which I spent the best of my afternoon trying to think over. To be truthful, there are other modules that I really enjoy and are great fun to do, which includes a lot of drawing, animating and such, not to mention seeing my Uni Friends on certain days, but there are times when I just stop everything that I’m doing and think: “I don’t have to be here. I’m already good enough as it is. Why should I spend another year-and-a-half with modules that are too confusing and badly disorganised where I could be out there making myself a living?” True, I won’t be able to get my Diploma or finish my coursework and all that, but sometimes I feel really bogged down and unhappy with how University can be, even with the most complex of lessons. I may succeed in some modules, but it’ll only take one that gets too much for me and then I’ll end up failing at that, no matter how much I try to improve on it. And that’s when the thought hit me. If I wasn’t satisfied with how the teachers at University are teaching us, I ought to just drop out and get employment straight away. I know this sounds mad coming from me, but my Mum, to balance the argument, dropped out of College when she was my age and her life turned out just fine after getting work at my local Primary School. Also, I heard of a handful of famous names that dropped out of School, College or Uni and got lucky with their careers—Peter Maddocks was one of them, as I found out here: opal.ukc.ac.uk/cartoonx-cgi/artist.py?id=114I’ll also come away with all the knowledge and “know-how” that I’ve managed to gain and I’ve started looking for some hopeful applications where I can make a living from my drawing abilities, but when I do find a hopeful job, I’m torn with a difficult question—would it be a good idea for me to drop out of University? I’ve tried everything to make Uni Life better—talking to teachers, trying to understand the work, getting advice from my parents. But in truth, most of the teachers are as helpful as a toothless crocodile and the only advice I get from my folks are, “That’s Life”, which I’m so sick of hearing. It’s my life and I really want to run it how I like. But the thought of dropping out sounds like both a good and bad thing. Sorry if I took up anyone’s time with this post, but I’m asking you as friends—what should I do?
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