Bonner
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Post by Bonner on Jan 15, 2006 20:51:35 GMT
Heres somthing new and Fresh. (Unless there used to be one) Over the years, you always have the friend or relitive who is having problems, personal like home trouble, or just what to wear. I personally had troubles and my Friends and Family helped me through it. So... Not to ask for your deepest trouble with women and that. But why not post some of your light problems here, get other people's opinion, to help you sort it out. This is not an excuse to post silly ones like "Get a car on run them over" This is serious. Unless the guy (Or gal ) Mind. Believe me, I have had troubles, horrible ones . Its nothing to joke about. (Unless its just a minor one)
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Post by bobwinkle007 on May 12, 2006 2:20:44 GMT
Oh good this thread is back open O.K I need advice on the following. 1. I might be having sugery in a few months time, and I'm kinda worry about it, as i've never had any operation done to me before. 2. I have a problem with a few friend of mine, who seems to treat me more less of a friend each day. A. One of them I help them when ever possible, yet get nothing in return. B. The second seem to not care about more about his life. I want to be his friend still, but he just doesn't listen to me anymore. C. If you had an argument with a friend and know if you are right, but they never agree or listen, how do you resolve it? D. Is there a way to test if certain people are stil your friend? Mstnoodle 1. Surgery isn't so bad. I wouldn't stress over it. Chocolate ice cream helps. 2A. Story of my life. But I guess if you truely give, they you shouldn't seek to recieve, right? Most of the time you don't get something in return if you help someone, but that person won't forget it. 2B. People can be selfish. My best friend is like that. Talk about yourself around him/her and maybe try not to have conversations centered around them. If all else fails, just talk to them about your problem with their attitude. 2C. Let it go. Unless it's something urgent or important, it's better to let arguements go and move on. If you won the arguement, that's what matters, not what the other person thinks. Lose an arguement and save a friendship seems like a good deal. 2D. Nope. Dunno if this will help any, but its the best I can do.
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Post by gotSTEAM? on May 12, 2006 2:53:37 GMT
Somehow I don't think Chocolate ice cream, is going to help where they going to do the Surgery. My manhood Mstnoodle No, I don't think chocolate ice cream would help at all in that case. That's going to be some major surgery, I do hope that you don't have to go through it - you said maybe in your previous post. Nonetheless, I hope everything goes all right if it does happen *hugs* ~Elizabeth
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Post by bobwinkle007 on May 12, 2006 3:49:45 GMT
My goodness. I hope that all goes well, Mstnoodle. Best of luck to you.
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Post by Ci on May 12, 2006 5:30:03 GMT
Oh good this thread is back open O.K I need advice on the following. 1. I might be having sugery in a few months time, and I'm kinda worry about it, as i've never had any operation done to me before. Surgery is one of those things that you really need to have confidence about, the more you build up a fear/worry about it, the bigger of a deal it will seem. Think of it as a positive step towards bettering your life. You'll be worked on by people who are trained professionals at what they are doing. You will also be very verrrry drugged, so you won't even be conscious, (nor would you care!) about what is happening to you. 2. I have a problem with a few friend of mine, who seems to treat me more less of a friend each day. Freud says that there are three major things that make us miserable; our own bodies, mother nature, and the most important of all, our relationships with others. As far as friendships, you simply cannot expect to get things in return. Have you any idea how many pairs of Pumas I've gotten from friends, and haven't paid them back? Well, then again...Pumas aren't what you're discussing, are you? I digress on my anecdote. A friend is one who is always there to help, regardless on whether they are paid back or not. If a friend cannot help, then they really aren't that good of a friend. As for arguments, you can either say something and confront the issue, or let it go, and as for testing someone, you really can't--it's not fair to go around testing people...it makes them angry. Sometimes it's hard to gauge friendships and where you stand, but sometimes if you stop worrying about them things will fall into place on their own. Trust me on that.
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Post by FlyingScotsman on May 12, 2006 12:24:23 GMT
Friendship is complicated. It has a tendency to be uncategorisable and unmeasurable. If you feel you have to test someone's friendship, then I think you might already have the answer.
As for arguments, it depends what you're arguing about. Nine times out of ten, it's better to just back down, even if you think you're right. Agree to disagree, as they say.
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Richard
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Post by Richard on May 27, 2006 16:02:50 GMT
I have something. Puberty.
I have had my biggest growth spurt, and it's not all that hot. I'm getting more hairy and getting blisters in unusual spots. I don't know what to do.
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Post by dragonfox on May 27, 2006 16:26:16 GMT
I have something. Puberty. I have had my biggest growth spurt, and it's not all that hot. I'm getting more hairy and getting blisters in unusual spots. I don't know what to do. That's what happens in puberty. However I suggest seeing a doctor (or as I call them, a Frankenstein) about it if it worries you so much.
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Post by stepneydude on May 27, 2006 16:51:01 GMT
The best thing you can do is just go through with it. I am still going through puberty, and many other members here might be. If something happens to your body that you find deeply worrying, ask your parents or a doctor.
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Post by JimBobDunnie on May 28, 2006 10:37:16 GMT
Well, still going through it myself, I'd say this...this. Nah, I'd personally wouldn't worry about it. Just let it come and just ride it through and (like said) if you have any faults/doubts about it, go to the doctor. (Believe me, the growth part is natural and so is the blisters I think. You sure they ain't really spots?)
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Post by Assassin on Jun 5, 2006 17:50:13 GMT
I need some advice everyone. Lately I've been going through a rough patch with school, home, and everything. I'm behind in school, my parents are being very nagging, and other people at school are just being stupid. I've also been feeling like the only thing I'm good at is not being good at anything and there's no hope and I should just give up. What should I do?
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Post by Chris The Xelent on Jun 5, 2006 18:28:46 GMT
Have you considered Counseling?
If you think that life really is getting on top of you, then perhaps it's worth speaking to counseling doctor about your problems. I had counseling during my nervous breakdown and it really helped me to get through a lot of lifes problems. I know it sounds daunting, because when you say counseling doctor to your average bum idiot they think 'Phychiatrist'/'Mental Home' and all that sterotypical cobblers. But it's not as bad as it sounds. I mean, sometimes it helps to talk.
Is that any help?
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Post by bobwinkle007 on Jun 5, 2006 23:03:12 GMT
I agree with Chris. Counseling helped me out too. Assasin, I would do it. It can only bring good things- the worst that can happen is you have someone to talk to.
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Post by Ryan on Jun 6, 2006 8:16:33 GMT
I need some advice everyone. Lately I've been going through a rough patch with school, home, and everything. I'm behind in school, my parents are being very nagging, and other people at school are just being stupid. I've also been feeling like the only thing I'm good at is not being good at anything and there's no hope and I should just give up. What should I do? Really, while counselling is a good suggestion, perhaps you should just go for a more conventional way. There's a bright side to everything, if you're falling behind in school, do something about it and study harder. Memorise things by putting down bullet points of relevant information that could help you remember things for tests etc. It's much easier than reading big long chapters and trying to cram it all in. We all go through rough patches with our parents as well, perhaps just talking to them about how you feel would help too. They might not listen at the time, but it could play in their minds over time and then have an effect later on. As for people at school, ignore them. If they're being stupid, let them be, and just get on with what you're doing!
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Post by jake on Oct 3, 2006 23:45:30 GMT
*gives thread a BIG bump* What do you do when a friend's mad at you when you said something you didn't mean? One of my closest friends at school, Gretchen, was at me because I told some friends something (about her, which was nice, but in a way rude. Not saying what it is ) that she was kind of offended about. She wasn't mad about it when I explained to her, but in case similar situations happen to me in future, what do I do?
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Post by RustyFanatic05 on Oct 3, 2006 23:50:10 GMT
Well this is just my opinion, but maybe it would be best if you didn't say things behind her back. Not only can they ruin a friendship, but the story can become twisted and end up getting to the other person in a whole other way. Anyway, glad to hear that she forgave you. And...you don't have to follow my suggestion, but I thought I might try and help a little.
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Post by jake on Oct 3, 2006 23:59:36 GMT
I didnae say it behind her back Ms. RustyFanatic, nor did I intend to. Plus, she was nowhere to be seen at the time I said it
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gotSTEAM?
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Post by gotSTEAM? on Oct 4, 2006 1:49:33 GMT
*gives thread a BIG bump* What do you do when a friend's mad at you when you said something you didn't mean? One of my closest friends at school, Gretchen, was at me because I told some friends something (about her, which was nice, but in a way rude. Not saying what it is ) that she was kind of offended about. She wasn't mad about it when I explained to her, but in case similar situations happen to me in future, what do I do? My advice? Think twice, or thrice, about saying something to someone - believe me, I have this problem too ^^' I could do with a bit of advice, too... What do you do when your mom sleeps ALL day and night, and your father works all day and has a painful disease, then comes home and sleeps? That's my house T_T Mom sleeps all day/night and doesn't do anything, dad works 8 to 5, then comes home and sleeps because he needs rest. I'm all alone, stuck in the middle of them T_T Mom complains when she has to take time out of her 'busy schedule' to drive me to college, and dad won't go anywhere at all. It's been like this for a long time - mom always slept 23 hours a day, but dad wasn't sick with Rheumatoid Arthritis until 2001. Before then, he couldn't be kept in the house, we'd always be doing something. Now I don't even know him anymore... I have few friends, and not a lot to look forward to. Well, nothing to look forward to that's close in time ^^' There are some things, but they won't happen for a long time yet. I'm tired of always being the one who is the underdog - I'm 19 and quite mature, but my mom wields her parental powers as if I were 9 I can't even go to my friend Sandy's house without checking in every 30 minutes...then mom gets mad because the phone wakes her up T_T Yes, my life is a mess, any advice, anyone? ^^' PS, there's good in my life too, but I need help anyway ^^' ~Elizabeth
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Post by inuprincess on Oct 4, 2006 3:23:24 GMT
You can offer your father to go to a good specialist, such as Joint Disease Hospital in New York and also speak with him to collaborate on getting your mother out the house and into a job. You both must work hard on making your mother work. How come your mother sleeps so much anyway? Have you thought about campus living. It gives you freedom. You usually can do whatever you want, without parents getting on your nerves.
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Post by OldBoiler on Oct 4, 2006 8:11:11 GMT
Perhaps you can talk to your Mum when she's not asleep. Tell her how you feel and that you feel restricted as if you are still a child. Explain to her your worries. It's just a thought
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