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Post by Locomotive on Mar 26, 2006 9:31:14 GMT
I've MORE Questions: If we do go out, do I have to see her or go out with her regularly? When we do go out, do I wear a tux, or just nice clothes? Do I have to spend all my money on her? Can I use poetry or compliments a lot? I need more help In order, Nice clothes will be just fine, tux would be a bit much. The money, well it depends, if its a date then you WILL have to provide the money, apart from that, its nice to give her a little gift from time to time, but you dont have to worry about wasting your money too much. And the poetry and compliments, well see if she likes poetry first before doing that, compliments on the other hand are the way to go. Something about the compliments though, be truthful about it if your talking about her eyes and face, chances are she has heard it too many times before, try complimenting on other parts, hands, shoulders, eyelids, chin, may seem weird but its tasteful, and it will show how unique she is and she will lighten up to you (just dont do this with *ahem* certain parts). Hope this helps you Salty01
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Post by *Showboi~Lee... on Mar 26, 2006 12:21:46 GMT
My love life stucks at the minute! Why is it that when I fancy some girl she is already dating someone! And the thing that ticks me off is that, this girl called Amy I used to like is now dating this other lad, but when i asked her awhile back she said she wasn't ready for a boyfriend! sometimes girls just don't give you a straight answer and they expect you to read between the lines!
Well I learnt the hard way, my advice is don't keep asking someone out as I did this with Amy and she just kept saying no! In the end she embarassed me during Art, and I lost all my confidence and interest in her.
We don't speak and when we do I'm really short and blunt to her as I have seen the other side to her and I hate it. Now when I think of it she ain't my type. She too much of a goodie goodie!
I like a girl to have an edge, to be rebellious and to have their own style and sense of humour! But for now I'm happy to say at lunch my friends and I have our own little singles group and as soon as you get a partner, you can't sit and smooch infront of everyone else otherwise your out!
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Locomotive
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Giving a Cheerful, "Toot-Toot", Farewell and Goodbye! ^_^
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Post by Locomotive on Mar 26, 2006 13:57:35 GMT
My love life stucks at the minute! Why is it that when I fancy some girl she is already dating someone! And the thing that ticks me off is that, this girl called Amy I used to like is now dating this other lad, but when i asked her awhile back she said she wasn't ready for a boyfriend! sometimes girls just don't give you a straight answer and they expect you to read between the lines! Well I learnt the hard way, my advice is don't keep asking someone out as I did this with Amy and she just kept saying no! In the end she embarassed me during Art, and I lost all my confidence and interest in her. We don't speak and when we do I'm really short and blunt to her as I have seen the other side to her and I hate it. Now when I think of it she ain't my type. She too much of a goodie goodie! I like a girl to have an edge, to be rebellious and to have their own style and sense of humour! But for now I'm happy to say at lunch my friends and I have our own little singles group and as soon as you get a partner, you can't sit and smooch infront of everyone else otherwise your out! I know exactly how you feel, alot of girls in the college are the same way and its hard to seperate the taken from the singles. Yeah its hard, the taken thing is annoying me too, and even if they are single they might not want me, no matter how nice I am to them. But girls will open up, you just gotta cheer up, and never give up hope! thats what I do, its not easy, but I keep praying for it to happen and eventually we will find the right girl!
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Post by 01Salty on Mar 26, 2006 21:34:21 GMT
Hello again. Is it okay if the girl I like is a grade higher/older than me?
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Post by stepneydude on Mar 26, 2006 21:35:46 GMT
Of course it's not. If the two of you love each other, that's all that matters.
There was once a newspaper report where a man in his 20s married a woman in her 60s... or something like that.
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Post by chrisburrell on Mar 26, 2006 21:36:00 GMT
Hello again. Is it okay if the girl I like is a grade higher/older than me? I don't see how that's wrong. My third ex was 2 years older than me, but we didn't care, neither did my friends.
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Post by 01Salty on Mar 26, 2006 21:49:23 GMT
Ok, thanks. What if this girl rejects or brakes up with me? Do I ignore her, or just go on like nothings happened? Do I wait until I ask someone else? Do I go into depression? Can I commit suicide?
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Post by bobwinkle007 on Mar 26, 2006 23:05:03 GMT
Ok, thanks. What if this girl rejects or brakes up with me? Do I ignore her, or just go on like nothings happened? Do I wait until I ask someone else? Do I go into depression? Can I commit suicide? Uh... buddy, why don't you take it one step at a time? Try asking her out first before you worry about getting dumped. If she rejects you, life goes on. And suicide is a big no-no.
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Post by neville on Mar 27, 2006 0:29:09 GMT
Hello again. Is it okay if the girl I like is a grade higher/older than me? I don't see how that's wrong. My third ex was 2 years older than me, but we didn't care, neither did my friends. I agree that there is nothing wrong with it. Katie (my girlfriend) is 17 and I'm 16. She drives and I am fixing to, and it takes getting used to for me.
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Post by Dieselengine on Mar 27, 2006 0:40:44 GMT
Hello again. Is it okay if the girl I like is a grade higher/older than me? It's perfectly fine, Salty. As for me, I have no romantical interests...Yet. Who knows? I might see a girl or a boy I might be interested in, or maybe I won't.
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Post by neville on Mar 27, 2006 0:47:35 GMT
Got a situation....
OK, Katie is shy, I'm shy. Katie says that she was getting a new horse this weekend, and I called her Saturday to see if she was ok because she didn't show up at school Friday. Leave a message not saying "call me back". It Sunday now... Is everything okay? Give opinions please...
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Post by primus on Mar 27, 2006 10:16:17 GMT
Well mate. Maybe she didn't get the horse and she's a little bit gutted. Try calling again and if there's no answer just leave a message saying, 'hope everything's ok. Just ringing to see if you're well and if there's anything i can do, let me know.' At least you're showing that you care. It's difficult to say really. Try and be positive. I don't know what else to say.
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Post by Ryan on Mar 27, 2006 13:09:26 GMT
As for me, I have no romantical interests...Yet. Who knows? I might see a girl or a boy I might be interested in, or maybe I won't. That's the way I think of things myself Dieselengine, being in a relationship is satisfying and good, but at the same time, you've got to remember, so is being single. Life is what you make it and if you don't take the chances you're given in life to be happy, then you'll get nowhere. If you spend time worrying about if you'll die alone with nothing to show from your life, then shame on you for wasting your time. You could be hit by a bus tomorrow! I've learnt a lot about relationships in the past two years. I can honestly say I've never felt " love" yet either. I know one day I hopefully will, but it'll take a lot of searching, and I'm not impatient. Mrs or Mr Right is out there somewhere waiting for me.
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Post by FlyingScotsman on Mar 28, 2006 0:39:10 GMT
See, my surname actually is Wright, so when people talk about "Mr Right"...
A friend of mine issued a challenge to me to try to chat a girl up using the line, "Hi, looking for Mr Right?" I didn't accept.
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Locomotive
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Post by Locomotive on Mar 28, 2006 18:14:36 GMT
As for me, I have no romantical interests...Yet. Who knows? I might see a girl or a boy I might be interested in, or maybe I won't. That's the way I think of things myself Dieselengine, being in a relationship is satisfying and good, but at the same time, you've got to remember, so is being single. Life is what you make it and if you don't take the chances you're given in life to be happy, then you'll get nowhere. If you spend time worrying about if you'll die alone with nothing to show from your life, then shame on you for wasting your time. You could be hit by a bus tomorrow! I've learnt a lot about relationships in the past two years. I can honestly say I've never felt " love" yet either. I know one day I hopefully will, but it'll take a lot of searching, and I'm not impatient. Mrs or Mr Right is out there somewhere waiting for me. *sigh* reading this, and a lot of thinking, perhaps you could be right. All four crushes (INCLUDING the imaginary one) have left me with nothing but depression and misery, it all adds up. The first crush was a complete tart, if I was still seeing her I wouldnt be happy because she would only go out with me for her own pleasure The second crush, yes I sent her the e-mail but when I realised what I have done I was scared and scarred thinking about what could have happened. Thinking about it gives me the chills, yes we are still friends, but I admit I havent been a good one in not calling (Partly because I am overworked, but partly because Im a bit nervous over what happened) The third one, it went well for one or two months but finding out her age, and having to break up with her before it went too far was the hardest thing to do. I am still glad we are friends, as I wasnt confident I would get off easy a second time. The imaginary crush was simply the fact that I was skitted at for it, nothing much. And now thinking about it, it makes me realise, the fourth is probably going to end up the same way, and there are barriers for me for a reason. There is no telling what might happen if I love a fourth time, maybe I'll mess up like I did the second crush, maybe she will toy with me, maybe she will dump me the moment she knows my interest in Pokemon and Thomas, I dont think my emotions can take another heart break. Now look at me, I'm crying whilst writing this, because now I dont know how to go. Saying all this I might have to consider doing the most hardest thing in the world, to make sure I never love again, not even for anime girls. but if I do this then some of my interests might leave me, and if I try and reject every female, will I still be happy. Oh I dont know what to do anymore, yes I have wanted a girl to like me for who I am but I could be risking a lot of things. If I needed any help on this subject, I need it more than ever, I'm so confused. Should I try and continue on risking to try and find the perfect one? Or should I forget all about it and give up and live alone for the rest of eternity? Cast your opinions now, I dont care how upset I'll be over your comments, I want to know if any of this is my doing or not, and if I am doing the right thing, I'm all over the place right now, if nothing else I should probably forget looking forward to episode 42 of YuGiOh GX where Dark Magician Girl kisses Sho(Syrus) T_T
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Post by Ryan on Mar 28, 2006 20:09:05 GMT
The fact is, it's human to feel these things. You're not a machine, and we're all looking for the same thing. Rejection isn't the end of the world, it's not that the person's wrong to turn you down, its another of life's lessons learned. If a person doesn't feel you are right for them, ask yourself the same question if you were in their shoes. Would you stay with someone you weren't happy with?
Never give up looking, but don't let it take over your entire life. If it happens, then well done. If not, remember you don't need to be in a relationship to be a full person.
Personally, if I don't happen to settle down at some point in my life, I would NEVER see it as a failure. I've got a ton of friends who are always there, most of whom are as good as family, so I know I'll never be alone completely!
I know a ton of single people who enjoy their situation, mainly because they think positive and make it work for them. Life is what you make it, and if you want to be miserable and think negative thoughts, you're welcome to do so, but it's going to get you nowhere but a ticket to Prozac-ville!
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Post by Locomotive on Mar 29, 2006 6:23:44 GMT
I guess your right, besides thinking that way of all women isnt going to help anyway.
Sorry about that, I was just a little (oh who am I kidding) a lot upset when thinking that way about them, I cant believe I tried to sell myself short >_<
Yeah I'm gonna go on a little quest this lunch time (Mine is quite long) to find some answers, hopefully I can reconsider what I have been thinking, and maybe it will help me cheer up, or at least stop thinking less about anime girls. I guess I'm just trying to find my sense of self, which could be the reason why I'm so afraid about this. So more thinking is in order I suppose, again sorry I tried to sell myself short, and to all girls on this forum sorry I felt that way about you guys.
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Post by primus on Mar 29, 2006 12:32:26 GMT
You're already being positive. Just try and keep it up. Love, to me, was harder to find when looking than it was when i wasn't. It has a real big habit of sneaking up. I spent most of my teenage years just being friends with girls as i used to sell myself short, had negative thoughts etc. But as the years go by, i felt myself going with the flow. Yes i've had my fingers burnt and yes it took some convincing by a few people but i've at last found someone. Hopefully it'll do the same for you. Fingers xed for you. Stay positive but don't try too hard.
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Locomotive
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Post by Locomotive on Mar 29, 2006 15:11:18 GMT
Ok, I have been on my little "Quest", and just so you know I am feeling much better. To those who think talking to themselves is weird, heres the fact, IT HELPS!!! During my first lesson I thought I was beginning to turn out like Edward (And we all know what happened with him ), and I felt like ever since I had these thoughts, that I lost my self identity, but anyway So I had a long walk away from college, and managed to find out some answers. For starters, there isnt anything wrong with me, and the reason why I am not with any of the three past crushes was simply because they didnt want a boyfriend (except the first obviously), and if the last two still accept me as a friend then thats good enough. I also realised that the route to my problems is college, and its workload, its the main source of my depression at this stage. I am too overworked to even have time for practically anything, the girls in college are mostly taken, and I can hardly see how entering an area with all sorts of chavs, scallies and (what I call...) Howler monkeys is fun. Being confined here is whats lowering my self-esteam (despite being a diesel lol) and this is why I am so gloomy (I still go for the sake of highering my grades but thats all its good for) Thinking less about girls wouldnt do me much good, as I would have been shutting half of my life away, men are attracted to women its a fact of life, its why Dark Magician Girl is such a rare and popular card (we see more of her smooth legs than anything else), and I would suck as any other character on Super Smash Bros melee if I didnt use Jigglypuff (I beat everyone with this character, dont question it, I ROCK with this character despite her bad points. DONT MESS WITH THE PUFF!!) Last but not least, I am still searching for love, only I am not going to try that hard. Seeing as my Interests are the least of my worries, all I have to do is be a bit more cheery in college, and maybe girls will want to get to know me more. If nothing else, being completely depressed and sad is not attractive, so being more cheerful around the public (though I dont like its theme, being all morons) and there just may be a chance a girl will want to open up to me. Adding to that, I think the main reason now for wanting a girlfriend is just having someone around that will make me feel better in times of gloom, and I'd do the same for her, and basically make each other happy. The kind of girl I am after should fufill this requirement, this cheerful part is helping already, it could happen. Attention to all, USE WHAT I HAVE SAID! I went on a long trip during my two hour lunch break to figure all of this out, try and learn from my mistakes, if nothing else do a little "quest" of your own to figure out your problems (P.S. Hopping down to HMV was a big help). Nothing is lost, and all considered all I have been lately is a big crybaby, and I'm sorry for that, I just kinda got the wrong idea, but its clear to me now and I'll try and be a bit more positive. And if not, I can do another little quest every lunch time on wednesday, so haha! So yeah, I will try my best, and try and stay positive even though its hard, and eventually my deepest wish will be a reality.
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Post by primus on Mar 29, 2006 15:20:37 GMT
Good on ya!
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