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Post by Old Square Wheels on Feb 16, 2006 10:34:48 GMT
Well, seeing as Valentines Day was a few days ago, thought I may as well restart this from the old forum BTW, I didn't get any, although I've gotten used to that now EDITED out of shame!
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Post by dragonfox on Feb 16, 2006 11:06:53 GMT
OooKay.... This is gonna be a wee embarrassing for me, but I've never had ANY luck wih girls at all! I remember in my old Junior (or Elementary for Americans) School, I was happily talking with this girl about stuff. Never saw her for five weeks afterwards. More recently though, in my old High School a girl had taken advantage of my art skills and was bragging to everyone that we had once went out (we never did). It was funny, but frightening at the same time, as I had no end of teasing because of it. Now I'm in a different, but by no means better, school in which there are less girls who are so vain that I'm surprised that the guys are trying to ask them for a date! *confused smilie here*But recently we have had a new fellow in our class and he is 'my older brother on a stick' as I put it. He is very above himself and he attracts to girls like a magnet attracts to metal. However, his vanity has made me take cover with, errr, I mean hang around with the girls of my class a lot more. These girls are mucho different from the others. They are nicer, more understanding and very kind, but they, like me, are disgusted with our new boy. Sometimes I think that they are sick of me hanging around with them all the time ('cos I usually hang with my f[r]iend Tim, but he is becoming someone I hate now)! Two of the girls though I get along with famously. We share the same anxiety and vunerability and we can read each other like a poster. However, our relationship hasn't gotten anywhere past 'passer-bys' and I am worried that this kindred friendship will soon die out (our school has EXTREMELY strict rules. So strict that we are not allowed to tackle each other in sports!). Still, it feels nice while it's lasting, but is it really nice? Or is it against my vital organs (wrong in other words)?
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Post by gonzerelli on Feb 16, 2006 13:06:43 GMT
QUICK PIECE OF ADVICE
Girls as friends = NOT GOOD for relationship prospects.
Once you're in the "Friends Zone", you will pretty much NEVER get out.
The girl will see you as a friend, and you can NEVER be any "more" in her mind.
It might sound like I'm rabbiting on, but I'm justified in doing so. I'VE BEEN IN THE "FRIENDS ZONE" MORE TIMES THAN I CAN COUNT.
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Post by gonzerelli on Feb 16, 2006 13:08:48 GMT
Oh yeah... One more thing...
Valentines' Day is FANTASTIC if you're with someone... But if you're not, it sucks major donkey d*ck.
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Post by Bonner on Feb 16, 2006 14:04:36 GMT
The last time I went out with a girl would have to be Year 6. I was a moron then. I was the oldest in school and was a House Moniter, thats probably why she kept asking me out. I didn't know any better so I went out with her. Then a couple of weeks later, a new boy came to school, she dumped me to go out with him, then later on she dumped him and wanted to go back out with me. I was so furious when I finally remembered all these years later, that only one word could Sum up what she was. (And still is believe it or not!) She goes around, asking lads out every time, and she's always pushed aside. I think it's because of her looks, (everyone takes the micky out of her!) She once, invited me best mate's bird down, and tried to use her looks to get in with some boys. It didn't work fortunatly, and I was awoken one morning to her and my mate wanted to talk to me about it. She's that ruddy desperate now she'll try owt. But I will never go out with her again.
There was a couple more girls in year 6 then her, there was one who was then the prettiest girl in school, I asked her out, she accepted. But later on, her mate got it into her head that I was cheating on her!. (This is year 6 remember!) So we fell out. The desperate lass once told me she is now fat and spotty... There was my last girlfriend after that, we were good friends, broke up when we parted for different schools.
Now in years 7,8,9,10. I don't really want a GF, me mates say I must be Gay an all that but I'm not. I just have other things to worry about then Girls right now. There's one lass who claims to like me, but most of the time I think she's taking the mick. So no birds for me for a while, and theres my story.
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Post by Kate669 on Feb 16, 2006 17:24:04 GMT
Ah, relationships...*sighs* The tempest sea on the globe of my life. I could write an entire book about my loves over the years, but for now I'll settle for two...Edward (yes, my first major crush was a fictional steam locomotive) and Isaiah.
The year was 2001. We met through work - I was a swing shift waitress at the time, and he was a graveyard dishwasher. It was one of those awful nights where you're the last server on the floor, and the restaurant is filling up with people, and then you go and get Tabasco sauce in your eyes. My contacts burning, I was ready to break down and cry right there in the middle of the floor...and there, standing nearby, was Isaiah. He gave me this tender look, and said, "I wish there was something I could do to help."
Naturally, with the customers still needing my attention, I couldn't afford much more than a smile of gratitude, but once we were both off-shift and sharing a salad, we chatted a bit before walking back to my apartment. (Yes, walking - he didn't have his car that night, and I didn't have one at all. Another burden to add to an already crappy evening.) It was a nice walk, though - once we were back at my place, we watched Bridget Jones' Diary, which he took as a sign. The next night, he drove me home...and, well, the rest is history. For the next ten months, we were never apart for more than a day. More than four years later, we're still together - different residence, and different car, but the love is still there. No kids yet...I'm hoping for us to be ready in another four or five years. In the meantime, I'm perfectly happy where I am.
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Post by trey2004 on Feb 16, 2006 18:01:04 GMT
I can certainly understand your situation oldsquarewheels. I've had the same problem myself with a girl I've been friends with since the 5th grade. Her name is Stephanie. I never went so far as to ask her out and be turned down, as I've always been too nervous to even suggest such an idea to her. I once told one of her friends, who is also a friend of mine, but to the best of my knowledge, she also thought it was best that Stephanie didn't know. It's been 6 years since I met her, and after I made my decision to be home-schooled in the 9th grade, our friendship started to fall apart. However, we recently became friends again when she got a job working at my Mom's Store, where I help out everyday. We're now back to seeing eachother on a daily basis, and my feelings for her still haven't changed. I'm still too nervous to tell her the truth, but for now, I'm happy just being friends with her. I must say though, I'm very pleased that there are guys like you out there who are brave enough to actually ask your friend out the way you did. I salute your courage! And, even if Stephanie ever did turn me down after I asked her out, though after reading gonzerelli's advice, I probably never will, Thomas would be the only cure for my depression. He's helped pull me out of many other situations before and I'm sure he'd help me out of a situation as deep as that too!
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Post by Chris The Xelent on Feb 16, 2006 18:34:14 GMT
I did have a brief and secret encounter with a girl I met in Wales nearly 3 years ago (and no, she DIDN'T have 4 legs and a white wool coat!). We were together for about a week and made sweet love every night, but then we split up for practical purposes.
Since then, I've had little or no luck whatsoever. I know many girls as friends but none have shown interest in going out with me and I did date someone from college who then left me for one of those boy racer types, but apart from that....bugger all.
So, another word of advice. If you've found somebody to love, then DON'T split up for practical reasons. You could end up regretting it for the rest of your life.
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Post by Skarloey on Feb 16, 2006 18:39:15 GMT
No girlfriend for me - I don't need one (not yet, anyway). It has been annoying lately, though... I am good friends with a girl in my year who is also in the orchestra and brass group. We sit next to each other for ICT and we're always having a good laugh together. Let me get one thing straight - neither of us fancy each other. Ok, got that? Good. Well, anyway, some of the other girls in our Maths class were trying to get us "fixed up" the other day. Asking us if we fancied each other - the answer being "no". My friend, though, have quickly thought of a plan. She said that she fancied someone from another school, and gave the other lasses a false name, which she'd just made up, and they fell for it! The next thing they're going to try and do is get us both drunk when we go on a trip to London in July... I don't drink alcohol for a start, so I don't really know how they'll do it. Anyway, onto people I do fancy. Well, there's a girl in my year that I used to really fancy. I told one of my friends but last year we fell out, so he decided to and blab, little so-and-so. Turns out he's worse off now, though, he's had family members dying and now lives with his godparents, who drive him crazy! My one true love would be Emma Watson, better known as Hermione from Harry Potter. That's the kind of girl for me.
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Post by bocodiseasel on Feb 16, 2006 18:48:48 GMT
The last time I atually liked Valentines day was 3 years ago. Since then i've had no Valentines mail, no hints and tons of people playing pranks on me. What's worse is no-one fancies me!
My friends on DA have scored and i'm the only one who hasn't! That's why I think Valentines day is quite literally a ton of Humbug. I'm just a sad git really. I get depressed when people I know have girlfriends for 24 hours and then they get dumped and then they get another girlfriend and so on and forth. I guess the next time I get any Valentines cards is when i'm fifteen. Til then I can only hope.
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Post by dragonfox on Feb 16, 2006 20:28:35 GMT
The last time I atually liked Valentines day was 3 years ago. Since then i've had no Valentines mail, no hints and tons of people playing pranks on me. What's worse is no-one fancies me! My friends on DA have scored and i'm the only one who hasn't! That's why I think Valentines day is quite literally a ton of Humbug. I'm just a sad git really. I get depressed when people I know have girlfriends for 24 hours and then they get dumped and then they get another girlfriend and so on and forth. I guess the next time I get any Valentines cards is when i'm fifteen. Til then I can only hope. Dude, I feel the same way. I always like myself to think that there is a special someone there for me on love related times, but in reality, I'm just as buggered as you are.
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Post by Aidan on Feb 16, 2006 20:42:34 GMT
I know a girl in symphonic band and marching band named Elizabeth. She, like me, is in the marching band's percussion section and she also happens to like the Beatles. Well, on Valentine's Day, I gave her a friendship bracelet, and after that she hugged me. I dunno if she wants to be my girlfriend, but hey, I can dream, can't I?
EDIT: She just wants to be friends, but that's okay.
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Post by Ryan on Feb 16, 2006 21:13:55 GMT
My love life at the moment is doing OK. I'm currently seeing someone, and it's become quite nice to say the least. It's good to have someone to cuddle up to at the end of the day and just do simple things with like watch TV and relax.
She broke up with her boyfriend, who I used to be friends with, and made no secret of it when they were together (to him at least!) that she liked me.
"A ray of sunshine in an otherwise dreary city!"
And Gonz, your words on Valentines' day are GOSPEL!
Thank God I don't believe in it! It's a corporate scam to make more money! As if Christmas, Easter and anything else wasn't bad enough!
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Post by stepneydude on Feb 16, 2006 23:32:39 GMT
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Post by stuart7 on Feb 17, 2006 0:01:54 GMT
Well, I've gone for quite a few girls in my life. Since the age of 14 come to think of it. I've a few friends that are girls, but I've never had a proper girlfriend. Though I do have a slight crush on a girl in my Performing Arts Class.
Stuart
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Post by Penguin on Feb 17, 2006 0:12:25 GMT
QUICK PIECE OF ADVICE Girls as friends = NOT GOOD for relationship prospects. Once you're in the "Friends Zone", you will pretty much NEVER get out. The girl will see you as a friend, and you can NEVER be any "more" in her mind. It might sound like I'm rabbiting on, but I'm justified in doing so. I'VE BEEN IN THE "FRIENDS ZONE" MORE TIMES THAN I CAN COUNT. I suppose I'll be the first to say that this statement is absolute nonsense.... I had a friend, who was, of course, a girl, who I had known since first grade. We basically acted like perfectly normal friends for all our lives until the last year or so before she moved away. She began to drop horribly obvious hints about wanting us to get married. Yeesh. Nowadays, there's a few girls here and there who, as a matter of fact, like me to the point of acting like I was God on Valentine's Day.
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Post by jake on Feb 17, 2006 1:13:21 GMT
One word for me: SINGLE! No matter how I try, I can't seem to find the right girl. And when I find the one I think is right, my damn shyness always kicks in, where I start shaking, sweating and chocking on my words. I have been in love many times, but these quotes are some I get every time: "NO!" "Ew?" "I have a boyfriend already" "Sorry, I don't like you." At times, I really want to give girls money to date me. There is, however, one girl who likes me, but I don't like her. I like someone else. Anyway, she looks better as my sister than my girlfriend.
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Post by douglas on Feb 17, 2006 1:30:18 GMT
I have to second Penguin's opinion of Gonzarelli's Rule of Love.
OK, there was a girl that moved from the city and the malls and other stuff to THE MOUNTAINS. I was the first person to acutally get to know her, because she was on my bus first day of school and she sat with me. Eventually, we bcame great friends, and everybody in my class would make the stupid kissy face and say, 'So when're you two gonna go out?'
So, the school year comes round, I see her again finally, and our friendship 'resumes' (I didn't talk t her over the whole summer). So we're watchin a movie in class one day, and I decide to hold her hand (I had a MAJOR crush on her from the first time I saw her). And, well, the rest is history!
We have now been dating 4 months.
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Post by Cranky on Feb 17, 2006 2:04:38 GMT
Prepare for the love life of Cranky4565 everbody Well staring from where I know: In Grade 1 for Halloween i wanted to be Han Solo from star wars(I was like, 6!). Anyways, this one girl who liked me told me she would be leia for me. Later on at recess, poof, i get two kisses to the cheek. I was about 7 when i had my offical first kiss. I went to visit my dad, and there was this girl across the street (I smell a sticom!) anyways, we met up and she wanted me to take her somewhere special, so we went into this small park type area near my fathers. We sat down, and she ended up kissing me on the lips, me thinknig ( WTF?!?!?). So we eneded up going to this park, and kissing and stuff. And eventually, i went back to my mothers, and she was Extremely sad. Escalating to when i was 12, i visted my father, and it was the girls birthday, and she and her friends decided to go swimming in the nearby lake on their own. My friend up there has binoculars, i find him at the beach spying on them. He, being the moron he is, calls to them, eh dashes, they see me, and i ahve no idea whats happening. Anyways, the found me, grabbed me, attemtep to tie em to some tree, and i got a kiss to the cheek, weird.......very weird. Anyways, 13, i went to a summer camp, and there was this really attractive, and we talked and talked, and she ended up having a crush on me, which she told me on the bus home. And we met up, and we eventually became Bf/Gf. So imwould take her to the places she wanted, we would kiss, and stuff, then she moved. Moving on, there was antoher girl who liked me at camp, and she always tried to hug me, but we never really took off So 14, me and my friend took these too goth girls out, lets not go there. And now 15, where as things are sparking and such. Mayube if i ever see my other gf, we'll get back together, and or, i'll see some girls i talk too. My love life is screwed up, but hey, its love. Note: When you realize your gf is moving, comfort her, just do it. Anyways, thats my love life
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Post by RustyFanatic05 on Feb 17, 2006 4:02:19 GMT
My love life? I developed my first crush in 3rd grade. His name was Richie. I would always write in my diary about how cute he was. Then I was invited to his birthday party. When he came to my house to pick me up, I ran out and gave him a big hug. He was rather freaked out after that. In fourth to fifth grade, I had a crush on my mom friend's nephew, Tyler. When my mom's friend had a wedding for her son, I got to dance with Tyler. I was in love with Tyler after that night. I sent him an e-mail telling him I had a dream about us kissing on the beach. He freaked out and told his dad. Scary experience!! In 6th grade, this guy named Kenny asked me out. He was actually a nice kid. The problem I had with him was that he had a huge personal hicheine (can't spell) problem. When he asked me out, I said no. But then I felt bad about it though. I also had a crush on this guy named Brandon. He had the brightest blue eyes I had ever seen. But then my friend went and told all his friends and I got picked on. 7th grade, well, I had a crush on 2 guys, but they both didn't like me, so yeah... And now, well, I dunno. At least I always have Rusty!!! ;D
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