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Post by Ci on Mar 12, 2010 7:03:17 GMT
Me in need of some advice again. Well, I've recently discovered that my university offers are in fact conditional, so I basically have to get C's in all my exams to be able to get the 220+ points to do the course I want to do in Lancaster. And thats about as likely to happen as HIT Entertainment hiring Christopher Awdry as a scriptwriter! So, I've reached a decision. If in the event that I don't get enough points to get into my course, I will take an apprenticeship in metalworking, namely blacksmithing. It's something I've always been interested in, and something I can do as well as my writing. I've wanted to be a writer for a while, but somewhere along the line I forgot about becoming an author and thought more and more about the life of a student. I've had advice from some quite well known authors...well, author, who has advised me not to put too much faith into such courses. And not meaning to sound arrogant (and probably failing quite dismally), but I'm not a bad writer, and will hopefully get published at some point. But if I'm learning a skill like metalworking, then I've got a chance of getting a job almost as soon as my apprenticeship is done. Anyway, thats just my thoughts. Could anyone else give me some advice? Is my plan sound, or should I aim for one goal rather than waiting to see what happens? Al the Best, Tayhan Tayhan, All's I know is that if I could get above C's then you can. You sound like a pretty smart guy. C'mawn. They're just C's. You can do better than C's! You have to think that you WILL do well and you WILL get the points. Now say it out loud. Hell, write it in this thread. Look in a mirror, lose the frown. Say you will get these marks, and you will get these points. I've always personally believed that it is hard to take time and move in one direction and then try to run back in another later. I don't know many Pilots who left uni and worked as car salesmen. Even with my job now it is not my dream job, but it is still in the realm of what I want to do, and despite the slow slow crawl and playing The Waiting Game, I have my sights set and know where I want to go. It's just getting there that is the pain. If you want to do metalwork I'd say do it on the side as a hobby or income. Aim for copywriting or something, anything that keeps you in the writing field. Build your resume, keep your goal. But then again, why would you have to worry? You've already told us that you will do well and get the points. I have recently come to believe that I am really, truly, a terrible person. I have shot myself in the foot, more than once. I made some bad choices in the last year, and quite a few this year too. All involving my ex-boyfriend... he really is a bad apple, and I learned it the hard way. But the trouble doesn't lie with him so much, it's what I sacrificed for him. I sacrificed time, money, effort... and perhaps most of all, I sacrificed a good friend. Someone who probably would've stood by me until the end, but I was too foolish to see that. Too wrapped up in what I wanted, too focused on how I wanted to feel, not what this person felt for me. I recently dreamed about this person, quite vividly in fact. I guess now maybe I have a different thought about them... not like it matters, since it's my fault that I lost them. I highly doubt they'll come around and be friends again... so, what do I do? Talk to them and say I'm sorry? Just deal with it? ~Elizabeth I'll go with Ryan's advice on this, but the reality is that between now and the time that you're three times your age you're going to go through this exact same situation again and again. You meet people, you love people, you sacrifice and you'll shoot yourself in the foot over and over. It is something you do when you're young. Best way to deal with it is to learn and then if and when it happens again to know exactly what to do. Friends and lovers come and go, and thank life that they do because if you only had the same friends and lover throughout the course of your life you would one day realize how many people are out there, and what you're missing out on. And the only way to experience is by making bad decisions and shooting yourself in the foot. It happens. Talk it out. Work it out. Learn from it. And be happy that one day in the future you will look back on it and laugh.
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Post by gotSTEAM? on Apr 29, 2010 8:37:42 GMT
Thanks Eric and Ryan... if you want to know I got in touch and we worked it out just fine But yeah, thanks a ton, really... But sadly, I've got a another thing I need help with... Job stuff I've been out there looking since July of last year... got only 4 interviews. I've got a resume both for business and a special graphic design one, as well as a business portfolio and an art one. I've got a suit and I look pretty spiffy in it too. I'm smart and it shows, and very much a people person. I can talk to pretty much everyone, and I've got experience in waitressing as well as some retail. I'm also really good with both Macs and PCs, and my art specialty is in Photoshop, as well as actual photography. Trouble is, I've never had a 'real' job, only volunteer work (and hell, I volunteered for 10 years at the same place every spring and summer). I put it on my resume nonetheless. For my Bachelor's in the Arts, I've come the the conclusion that I'm overqualified for all the jobs I have managed to land interviews for. Everywhere who will hire a graphic designer requires 2-3+ years of experience, in which I have none, only my schooling. I've tried even still... and failed pretty hard. I've got my resume on Monster, no bites there yet, either. Is there anything I'm missing here? Anything else I could be doing to get ahead besides going back to school? I know it's a tough economy, but I can't afford - literally - to be a statistic for much longer. I've got $80,000 in loans to pay off and deferment can only last so long, since my interest keeps accruing. If there's any wise souls who have been there, done that and have a few pointers on how to get ahead... I'm all ears. Thanks ^^ ~Elizabeth
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Post by Rusty Red Scrap Iron on Jul 27, 2010 21:55:00 GMT
Well.... I've been thinking about this for sometime now, luckily for once it's not a relationship or job related advice. For a change, it's a Technical one.
As I'm planning on making a few short films soon (I'm hopefully getting a real basic one sorted into pre-production soon). I'd just like to know, does anyone have any idea (basic or expert) how to burn your projects onto DVD using WMP (Windows Media Player)? I was browsing through it, some of it showed to offer on files had mulitiple versions of one audio track and I didn't really want to try using that because it would a waste of disc.
I know the basics on how it works on a MAC, but not Windows Media Player. So if anyone can help with any suggestions, that'll be helpful. I'm not in the stages of adding the film to DVD yet, but I wouldn't mind the advice so I can look back on it when the time comes.
Also, I'm having some doubts about importing music by my favourite artists using my new converter to import the music onto Windows Movie Maker. As I've been watching alot of Eastenders recently and the whole Lucas storyline (to those who watch Eastenders) I'm getting the feeling that if I do convert the MP3s music into WMA it may class as stealing. I do belief in God but I'm not someone who reads the bible alot or goes to Church, but I do belief in the concept of the 10 Commandments and such (but I listen to the advice my Mother said my Grandfather told her when it came to beliefs in God: 'It's the way you live your life than going to church and such'). I do find this advice helpful, but I like to know if anyone else has this same belief or not that it could be class as stealing (though you have brought the CD with your own money, but just using the music to create fan work and etc). I know I won't be doing pirate stuff and sell them left and right that's for sure, because a) it's against the law & b) it only leads to trouble.
I know it may sound daft for someone like me who's made music videos in the past of Thomas, I'm just having this bad feeling sometimes having been watching Eastenders. So if anyone can get to me on that, and the advice I'd like to really know on (the burning to DVD one) then I'll be grateful.
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Post by SRapi on Aug 4, 2010 21:39:55 GMT
I have sort of a serious/personal problem that I would like some form of advice for. I have been suffering for many years now with a certain illness. I was diagnosed with it a few years ago, and started taking medicine this year. However, the doctors agree that the medicine is not helping very well, and say that a procedure is the best thing for this sort of illness. It looks like there is a high probability that I will go through with the procedure, in fact I need to give an answer tomorrow to have the procedure next Thursday. My question is this: I am extremely nervous about this procedure, even though there is a very high rate of success with it, yet I am still extremely reluctant to get it (partly because I will only be partly sedated for it and still awake, yet groggy, and partly because if the procedure does go wrong, it could go very wrong). I was wondering if anybody out there knows how to console someone having to go in for this kind of thing the first time. I'm probably going to do it, by stomach is getting all knotted up just thinking about it. Does anyone have any advice for how to deal with this whole... thing?
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Post by Rusty Red Scrap Iron on Aug 5, 2010 20:31:14 GMT
I have sort of a serious/personal problem that I would like some form of advice for. I have been suffering for many years now with a certain illness. I was diagnosed with it a few years ago, and started taking medicine this year. However, the doctors agree that the medicine is not helping very well, and say that a procedure is the best thing for this sort of illness. It looks like there is a high probability that I will go through with the procedure, in fact I need to give an answer tomorrow to have the procedure next Thursday. My question is this: I am extremely nervous about this procedure, even though there is a very high rate of success with it, yet I am still extremely reluctant to get it (partly because I will only be partly sedated for it and still awake, yet groggy, and partly because if the procedure does go wrong, it could go very wrong). I was wondering if anybody out there knows how to console someone having to go in for this kind of thing the first time. I'm probably going to do it, by stomach is getting all knotted up just thinking about it. Does anyone have any advice for how to deal with this whole... thing? Wow... I didn't really want to say anything, because just reading about half of it gives me the 'watsits' (which I won't say what). But I'll try and give the best advice that I can. The best thing of course, is to try and remain calm. I know your obviously really nervous, it sounds like something you really do not want to go through and I don't blame you (I've had two procedures done for an ingrowing toenail, but I didn't have to be sedated - it's the sedated part plus the being awake that gives me 'the watsits'). But best to remain calm, or even say a Prayer to God (I'm not highly religious, but sometimes a prayer can go a long way) and generally have Faith that the procedure will got smoothly. The worst thing to do is get in a mad panic and give yourself high blood preasure, but I'd go with perhaps saying a Prayer and hope for the best. Keep calm and have faith that everything will run smoothly. I'm sorry I can't say anything really constructive, but procedures and operations and sedation really give me the 'watsits' (I even woke up from my bed a few years ago having dreamt of it and felt sick). But like I said, keep calm and have faith.
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Post by Little Engine on Aug 6, 2010 14:38:01 GMT
I need some help
I joined my school's cross country team, and I was finally gaining back some confidence in myself, going out of the house more, and for once, I didn't feel so out of place. I was still new to the sport so when I started , I could barely run a mile in the course of an hour, then I managed to run two miles over the course of 40 minutes, and I was giving it my all, but towards the end of last month, we were told we were having a race coming up in a few weeks. Later that day at practice, I was just waiting for my mom to come pick me up, I was talking to my friends, then she came and as I was walking over to the car, the coach came up and told me to wait a little, and he wanted to talk to her, and naturally I obeyed orders. A few minutes later, I came back and my mom told me the bad news that I was cut from the team, but I did my best. The next day, my brothers had a swim meet to attend. I was getting lunch at the concession stand and I ran into a former teammate, and I explained that I was cut and I was looking for some pointers I could use when training up for next year. So she gave me some pointers and I left. Then I come home and my mom tells me that the other teammates were not happy with how I was treated. My mom wasn't happy either and was furious that the coach didn't just tell me himself. And based on what I heard, several people are mad at the coach, my teammates especially, as they liked having me around, but I can't help but think everyone should be mad at me for not meeting up to expectations. What should I do?
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Post by SRapi on Aug 7, 2010 20:56:47 GMT
I have sort of a serious/personal problem that I would like some form of advice for. I have been suffering for many years now with a certain illness. I was diagnosed with it a few years ago, and started taking medicine this year. However, the doctors agree that the medicine is not helping very well, and say that a procedure is the best thing for this sort of illness. It looks like there is a high probability that I will go through with the procedure, in fact I need to give an answer tomorrow to have the procedure next Thursday. My question is this: I am extremely nervous about this procedure, even though there is a very high rate of success with it, yet I am still extremely reluctant to get it (partly because I will only be partly sedated for it and still awake, yet groggy, and partly because if the procedure does go wrong, it could go very wrong). I was wondering if anybody out there knows how to console someone having to go in for this kind of thing the first time. I'm probably going to do it, by stomach is getting all knotted up just thinking about it. Does anyone have any advice for how to deal with this whole... thing? Wow... I didn't really want to say anything, because just reading about half of it gives me the 'watsits' (which I won't say what). But I'll try and give the best advice that I can. The best thing of course, is to try and remain calm. I know your obviously really nervous, it sounds like something you really do not want to go through and I don't blame you (I've had two procedures done for an ingrowing toenail, but I didn't have to be sedated - it's the sedated part plus the being awake that gives me 'the watsits'). But best to remain calm, or even say a Prayer to God (I'm not highly religious, but sometimes a prayer can go a long way) and generally have Faith that the procedure will got smoothly. The worst thing to do is get in a mad panic and give yourself high blood preasure, but I'd go with perhaps saying a Prayer and hope for the best. Keep calm and have faith that everything will run smoothly. I'm sorry I can't say anything really constructive, but procedures and operations and sedation really give me the 'watsits' (I even woke up from my bed a few years ago having dreamt of it and felt sick). But like I said, keep calm and have faith. Thanks, RRSI. I will be undergoing the procedure this coming Thursday, actually. To be honest, it will probably be successful, considering that most of the time it is fairly easy to treat, and if it's not easy then the doctor said he won't he even attempt it. It's just that this is my first experience with a hospital, ever (not including birth), and it just gives me 'watsits' as well, though I think the Jibblies is a better term for this. Thanks for the advice.
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Post by The Vicar on Jul 15, 2011 5:54:35 GMT
*Blows dust off this thread*
It's summer time. The time I look forward to every year. But in mid-late July, I think why? It's the same stuff over and over. I try to organize things with friends, they never reply or busy, and then if I can't find something productive to do, I waste my day sitting in front of the computer.
In June, I ordered some books. They still haven't come due to Canada Post issues. Every day I go to the mailbox at 10:30 AM in my pajamas and barefeet with the hope of getting a key to the big mailbox to find a package from the UK. It hasn't happened yet, and as childish as it sounds, I get sad.
This along with my bad computer habbit made me have a few revelations: 1. This is time wasted. I'll never get it back. To think of all the non-productive time I've spent on the computer.
2. If I always look forward to the future, I can't enjoy the present.
Sure, it's an old saying but it's true.
Thankfully, tomorrow I'm going golfing, today I went to the WEM Waterpark with a friend, yesterday I went to a Par 3 course with two friends, and the day before that I had a sleepover with a friend. I shaped up quickly, and am trying to do something every day this summer. I have a curling camp planned in August, I have a mudfight planend with some buds, and I am trying to golf sometimes this Summer. But if you're still reading this , can I ask you; What can I do to prevent me from sitting on the computer/watching TV/wasting time doing anything this Summer? I'm only young once, and I have to make the best of it.
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Post by TheRollingThunder on Jul 15, 2011 7:33:07 GMT
I'd suggest setting yourself a task or a goal or a project or something like that such as getting fit, writing a book, making a movie etc.
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Post by The Vicar on Jul 15, 2011 18:38:18 GMT
Thanks. I have been trying to do stuff. Never thought of getting fit! I have a pass to a rec centre! I'll go more often! Thanks!
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Post by Jokerfan45 on Aug 22, 2011 22:34:58 GMT
Hello everyone. I have a major league problem. I've liked this girl for about 3 years now. Ever since freshman year of high school, I've had a major crush on her. But I didn't expect the problems that would follow the first few days I knew her. 9th Grade: This was where the problem started. I've wanted to ask her out for some time, but this "gang" of girls invited me to have lunch with them, and when I did, the girl I liked didn't want me there. I was upset. She had never treated me like this before. I got angry with the other girls, and spent days trying to aplogize to the girl for the setup her "friends" made. But she wouldn't talk to me, and I felt even more hurt. Eventually, it got to a point where she refused to talk to me altogether. I felt horrible. 10th grade: It got a little better at first. I started to talk to her again as a friend, but for some reason, she kept on running away from me. I didn't follow her or anything, but I didn't understand what was going on. It turned out that she still thought I was stalking her or something, but I wasn't. I really did like her, but I'm was not sure of where these problems were coming from. Towards the end of 10th grade, some jerks tried telling me stuff I didn't want to know, and being stupid, I wrote her a note telling her who these people were, and what they tried to tell me. She freaked out big time, and I even got in trouble with the principal, who said I couldn't talk to her anymore, or else....... I got scared. She took things way to seriously, and I was upset. Not long after, my parents put me on Zoloft to reduce anxiety. 11th grade: I stayed clear for most of this year, but one one occasion I said hi to her, and she smiled at me as if to be nice or something. Then a few months later, after trying to ask a whole bunch of other girls out, I began to realize something; I was asking girls out just to get over this one girl. It was a hard thing to do, getting o9ver her, so I couldn't take it anymore. I approached her, and tried to talk to her after school, but she screamed at me, "LEAVE ME ALONE!" Afterwards, I got so angry that I hollered at my friends, saying that I was getting suicidal. A teacher watching the whole thing told the new principal, and he gave me a day of ISS (in school suspension). After that, I waited a few months, and whenever I said hello, she just ignored me. I felt stupid. Now I'm a senior, and I'm not sure if she's still at the school. I may have seen her once, but I'm not sure (this was only the first day for me). My point is that I want this girl to understand the pain I went through. She was being a selfish (witch) and didn't even talk to me. I was told that she didn't hate me, and that she cared about my feelings, but I don't know. She wouldn't even consider giving me a try. I just want to cry right now. I need someone to tell me what I can do to show her that I'm not a bad guy. Her friends might be the ones telling her crap about me. It hurts my feelings that she won't even talk to me. What can I do to put things right and be able to speak to her again? Can somebody please help me? I don't know where to go. I feel like I can't trust anyone, not even my parets or friends.
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Post by Locomotive on Aug 23, 2011 10:59:14 GMT
Hello everyone. I have a major league problem. I've liked this girl for about 3 years now. Ever since freshman year of high school, I've had a major crush on her. But I didn't expect the problems that would follow the first few days I knew her. 9th Grade: This was where the problem started. I've wanted to ask her out for some time, but this "gang" of girls invited me to have lunch with them, and when I did, the girl I liked didn't want me there. I was upset. She had never treated me like this before. I got angry with the other girls, and spent days trying to aplogize to the girl for the setup her "friends" made. But she wouldn't talk to me, and I felt even more hurt. Eventually, it got to a point where she refused to talk to me altogether. I felt horrible. 10th grade: It got a little better at first. I started to talk to her again as a friend, but for some reason, she kept on running away from me. I didn't follow her or anything, but I didn't understand what was going on. It turned out that she still thought I was stalking her or something, but I wasn't. I really did like her, but I'm was not sure of where these problems were coming from. Towards the end of 10th grade, some jerks tried telling me stuff I didn't want to know, and being stupid, I wrote her a note telling her who these people were, and what they tried to tell me. She freaked out big time, and I even got in trouble with the principal, who said I couldn't talk to her anymore, or else....... I got scared. She took things way to seriously, and I was upset. Not long after, my parents put me on Zoloft to reduce anxiety. 11th grade: I stayed clear for most of this year, but one one occasion I said hi to her, and she smiled at me as if to be nice or something. Then a few months later, after trying to ask a whole bunch of other girls out, I began to realize something; I was asking girls out just to get over this one girl. It was a hard thing to do, getting o9ver her, so I couldn't take it anymore. I approached her, and tried to talk to her after school, but she screamed at me, "LEAVE ME ALONE!" Afterwards, I got so angry that I hollered at my friends, saying that I was getting suicidal. A teacher watching the whole thing told the new principal, and he gave me a day of ISS (in school suspension). After that, I waited a few months, and whenever I said hello, she just ignored me. I felt stupid. Now I'm a senior, and I'm not sure if she's still at the school. I may have seen her once, but I'm not sure (this was only the first day for me). My point is that I want this girl to understand the pain I went through. She was being a selfish (witch) and didn't even talk to me. I was told that she didn't hate me, and that she cared about my feelings, but I don't know. She wouldn't even consider giving me a try. I just want to cry right now. I need someone to tell me what I can do to show her that I'm not a bad guy. Her friends might be the ones telling her crap about me. It hurts my feelings that she won't even talk to me. What can I do to put things right and be able to speak to her again? Can somebody please help me? I don't know where to go. I feel like I can't trust anyone, not even my parets or friends. Believe me, I completely understand how you want to prove your innocence to this girl, I've felt the same way myself, but I don't want to sound cruel but here is my best advice. After reading your story, I have to ask why would you ever WANT to talk to this girl if she has caused you so much pain? at least the other girls you have asked on a date from just flat out rejected you and that was it, but the fact that this girl is going the extra mile and had gotten you suspended for something so little is more than horrible. For your own good I highly suggest you forget her entirely and ignore her, it sounds like trying to reach her is getting you into more trouble, I'm not saying she is a witch, and I cannot say for sure because I don't know her from words alone, assuming she is nice she sounds like she has made it clear she doesn't want you around and you should respect her wishes. No one wants to get involved with someone who doesn't like them, whether her reasons are genuine or not, I don't see the reason you should try to reach her at all. If she does want to talk, just tell her that you like her and you don't appreciate the pain shes put you through and just walk away, if she didn't mean it she will apologise, if she did and she troubles you further, thats when it needs to stop. Lastly, you don't need to prove you are not a bad guy to her, because she is the one who is not figuring that out herself, you ARE a good person and that should rub off on people on it's own, branding you an enemy is her choice, and again, forgetting her is the best option, and so what if this ONE girl thinks your bad, and this one doesn't even seem to be trying to get the facts. That's just my advice, and I also suggest talking to someone about the issue for further help, be it your friends, family or a support worker. Sorry if I sound a bit harsh, and I hope this helps.
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Post by Jokerfan45 on Aug 25, 2011 22:16:42 GMT
Hello everyone. I have a major league problem. I've liked this girl for about 3 years now. Ever since freshman year of high school, I've had a major crush on her. But I didn't expect the problems that would follow the first few days I knew her. 9th Grade: This was where the problem started. I've wanted to ask her out for some time, but this "gang" of girls invited me to have lunch with them, and when I did, the girl I liked didn't want me there. I was upset. She had never treated me like this before. I got angry with the other girls, and spent days trying to aplogize to the girl for the setup her "friends" made. But she wouldn't talk to me, and I felt even more hurt. Eventually, it got to a point where she refused to talk to me altogether. I felt horrible. 10th grade: It got a little better at first. I started to talk to her again as a friend, but for some reason, she kept on running away from me. I didn't follow her or anything, but I didn't understand what was going on. It turned out that she still thought I was stalking her or something, but I wasn't. I really did like her, but I'm was not sure of where these problems were coming from. Towards the end of 10th grade, some jerks tried telling me stuff I didn't want to know, and being stupid, I wrote her a note telling her who these people were, and what they tried to tell me. She freaked out big time, and I even got in trouble with the principal, who said I couldn't talk to her anymore, or else....... I got scared. She took things way to seriously, and I was upset. Not long after, my parents put me on Zoloft to reduce anxiety. 11th grade: I stayed clear for most of this year, but one one occasion I said hi to her, and she smiled at me as if to be nice or something. Then a few months later, after trying to ask a whole bunch of other girls out, I began to realize something; I was asking girls out just to get over this one girl. It was a hard thing to do, getting o9ver her, so I couldn't take it anymore. I approached her, and tried to talk to her after school, but she screamed at me, "LEAVE ME ALONE!" Afterwards, I got so angry that I hollered at my friends, saying that I was getting suicidal. A teacher watching the whole thing told the new principal, and he gave me a day of ISS (in school suspension). After that, I waited a few months, and whenever I said hello, she just ignored me. I felt stupid. Now I'm a senior, and I'm not sure if she's still at the school. I may have seen her once, but I'm not sure (this was only the first day for me). My point is that I want this girl to understand the pain I went through. She was being a selfish (witch) and didn't even talk to me. I was told that she didn't hate me, and that she cared about my feelings, but I don't know. She wouldn't even consider giving me a try. I just want to cry right now. I need someone to tell me what I can do to show her that I'm not a bad guy. Her friends might be the ones telling her crap about me. It hurts my feelings that she won't even talk to me. What can I do to put things right and be able to speak to her again? Can somebody please help me? I don't know where to go. I feel like I can't trust anyone, not even my parets or friends. Believe me, I completely understand how you want to prove your innocence to this girl, I've felt the same way myself, but I don't want to sound cruel but here is my best advice. After reading your story, I have to ask why would you ever WANT to talk to this girl if she has caused you so much pain? at least the other girls you have asked on a date from just flat out rejected you and that was it, but the fact that this girl is going the extra mile and had gotten you suspended for something so little is more than horrible. For your own good I highly suggest you forget her entirely and ignore her, it sounds like trying to reach her is getting you into more trouble, I'm not saying she is a witch, and I cannot say for sure because I don't know her from words alone, assuming she is nice she sounds like she has made it clear she doesn't want you around and you should respect her wishes. No one wants to get involved with someone who doesn't like them, whether her reasons are genuine or not, I don't see the reason you should try to reach her at all. If she does want to talk, just tell her that you like her and you don't appreciate the pain shes put you through and just walk away, if she didn't mean it she will apologise, if she did and she troubles you further, thats when it needs to stop. Lastly, you don't need to prove you are not a bad guy to her, because she is the one who is not figuring that out herself, you ARE a good person and that should rub off on people on it's own, branding you an enemy is her choice, and again, forgetting her is the best option, and so what if this ONE girl thinks your bad, and this one doesn't even seem to be trying to get the facts. That's just my advice, and I also suggest talking to someone about the issue for further help, be it your friends, family or a support worker. Sorry if I sound a bit harsh, and I hope this helps. Thanks for the help. I appreciate it. Really, I do.
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Post by The Vicar on Nov 3, 2011 3:05:53 GMT
I've got major girl trouble. I'm incredibly shy around them. There's a girl I've liked since Grade 1, and we've been friends on and off. We don't fight or anything, but we just kind of stop talking. Recently, we were "on" again, but the major issue I have with girls is I can't start conversations. I'm so worried I might make a fool of myself. I get sweaty and nervous, and I think I may never be able to have a girlfriend due to my shyness. Does anyone have any generic help?
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Post by Rusty Red Scrap Iron on Nov 3, 2011 10:52:22 GMT
I've got major girl trouble. I'm incredibly shy around them. There's a girl I've liked since Grade 1, and we've been friends on and off. We don't fight or anything, but we just kind of stop talking. Recently, we were "on" again, but the major issue I have with girls is I can't start conversations. I'm so worried I might make a fool of myself. I get sweaty and nervous, and I think I may never be able to have a girlfriend due to my shyness. Does anyone have any generic help? Let me just say... I know exactly how you feel. I'm still incredibly shy around girls, and of course always find it hard to start a conversation. But even when you start a conversation, what you want to say is hard (your mind is off and away, whilst the conscious-self struggles. So here's what I'd suggested. Just pluck up the courage, walk up to her or when you see her pass by or something and simple give her a cheerful, polite greeting: "Hi, Hello or Hey". That's sort of what I did with the last Girl I started a brief conversation with (although I felt I didn't have the best of conversations). It really puts a real sense of relief within you once you've had that conversation. Plus... what have you got to lose? Yes a potential Girlfriend, but the worse a Girl could say is "No". Yes some may use F-ing and Blinding or "Bugger Off". If you really like this Girl, just be yourself and give her a polite greeting. If she says nothing or tells you to go away, then you've lost nothing and it'll be there loss (sorry that last part may sound harsh, but unfortunately these things happen - even to the nicest of people).
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Jokerfan45
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Post by Jokerfan45 on Nov 13, 2011 22:45:44 GMT
I'm in a relationship. The girl I'm with really likes me, and she feels that she wants to spend her life with me. But I don't really feel the same way, as we just met recently. I feel attracted to one of my exes at the same time as my current girlfriend, but I feel that my current girlfriend is way too clingy. I mean she's a great girl and all, but my ex wasn't as clingy.
I'm not sure where to go or what to do. I don't even know how I feel.
Can someone help me?
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Post by Nicholas on Nov 13, 2011 23:31:06 GMT
I'd recommend, with the girl you're with, letting her know that, although you're happy with the stage that you're at in your relationship, you feel no rush anything, but make sure you get this message across politely, maybe even subtely. That is, if you want to stay with her. Regardless, people can be clingy, but it shouldn't hinder a relationship. It's just a feeling of being secure in the relationship, I suppose, which is a good thing as long as it isn't abnormally over the top. You have to decide how you feel about your relationship at present. Do you want it to continue, regardless of how long for?
As for the ex, that depends. It's not always clever going back to one. I suppose, looking back at my ex's, there'll always be a sense of something there for them. But if it's getting to point where you feel that you really still have strong feelings of wanting to be with her to the point where you'd feel as if you were lying if you said you wanted anyone else, then maybe you should follow it up. But tread carefully! If you're feeling very sure and particularly brave, dip your toe in the water to see how the ex feels about the break-up, and whether she's happy with it or whether she regrets it, but be subtle, cautious, considerate, and, depending on the break-up, perhaps proceed as if walking on egg-shells already.
Hopefully that helps. Just keep in mind to be respectful and considerate top of the list, too, when consider your own feelings and what action you want to take.
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Post by Thesplendidredengine on Nov 14, 2011 0:17:23 GMT
I have an issue, this guy likes me (yeah im gay) and well hes lovely but the only problem is he's 37 and im 18.
I have told him im not looking for a relationship as I've come out of a big one this year and I was dating another guy recently which turned out to be a complete disaster.
The problem is he doesn't understand and I want to let him down easy but I still need to be harsh and tell him why its wrong I just don't know how to.
What should I say?
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Post by The Vicar on Nov 17, 2011 0:37:43 GMT
Thanks Rusty Red Scrap Iron. Sorry for a late response. "What've I got to loose" is something I should use more often. Thanks man!
I have to say things are looking better for the future. We've been talking a lot more recently and joke around a lot in math. If this keeps up, maybe I'll ask her out later in the year or next year.
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Post by Andrej on Jan 26, 2012 1:35:43 GMT
Sorry to bump a thread that's been inactive for a few months, but I'm rather desperately in need of advice. Lately, it seems that I'm being haunted by bad thoughts. These are vile, repulsive, blasphemous, disgusting and horrifying, and ones that anyone with even the most basic sense of right and wrong would shake their heads at in dismay. I've tried everything I can think of to distract myself from them/stop them completely, such as reading, gaming, watching television, trying to think of good things whenever such a thought comes up, but I've had no success whatsoever (I'd try sports, such as biking, but the weather is unsuitable at this point). These thoughts are what ruined the later part of 2011 for me, and I don't want this year to end up the same way. Frankly, I'm not sure how much more I can take. Thoughts? Thanks!
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