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Post by FlyingScotsman on Feb 20, 2006 14:27:48 GMT
I'm currently single and, for the time being, quite happy to remain so. Frankly, I think a relationship would complicate my life unnecessarily at the moment.
Re the "friend zone", to be brutally honest, I don't think it exists. I can think of several people who have dated long-time friends. If there is a mutual attraction, then being friends will not necessarily invalidate that. Sometimes it actually helps, because it means that the two get to know each other on a deeper level than instantaneous attraction. Quite often, people blame the friend zone when the truth is that the other person simply is not attracted to them in that way- I'll be honest, it's something I once did myself when I was about 18.
Generally a point I'd make is that it's a really bad idea to fall for friends or housemates. The former is something I have personal experience of, and the latter is something that broke up a friend's house quite severely.
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Post by stepneydude on Feb 20, 2006 17:29:45 GMT
I might as well actually use this thread...
My longest relationship so far has been four days. Don't laugh. I said it in Cultural Studies today and only a handful of people found it hilarious. They were the ones who admitted to having a long-term relationship once.
The girl broke up with me because I was too young for her - I find that odd, as I was only 13 (ten moths from being 14) and she was 14 (four months away from being 15.). Then again, I can see where she's coming from.
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Post by primus on Feb 22, 2006 20:01:21 GMT
oooo Valentine's Day! My second birthday. All i really can say is.... You know when you start going out with the right girl. I've been going out with my girlfriend for a year now and we get married in December this year. I use to get teased at school because of my name (Valentine) and it was prob worse because i never got any cards etc either. I didn't really start going out with anyone until college (17 years old) and i was in a few real bad relationships which pretty well messed me up. Two were long distance and i was real relieved when they ended. You just gotta keep looking and you'll find the one.
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Post by Mark Iron on Feb 22, 2006 20:48:39 GMT
Me? Single. Quite content being single, in fact.
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Post by ProfessorVengeance on Feb 22, 2006 20:56:08 GMT
I, for one, am currently single. In fact, I've always been single. Yup, there's not been a girl on Earth far that's ever dared to date this shy, nerdly, bony bag of grease and acne. Fingers are forever crossed, though. After all, stranger things have happened. ;D
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Post by dragonfox on Mar 5, 2006 20:28:00 GMT
Right, who here can help me out in this situation? I mentioned in this thread that I have been hanging around with these girls lately. Well, during the time afte I made that post, I have recently fallen in love with one of them, Louise. Old sop, I am. However, my f[r]iend Tim had found out about this (he can read me like a book) and on Friday, he had told a boy I knew called Shane about it. Shane was rooting me to break the ice, ' Ask her, go on, let her know that you fancy her!', but I subsided and said that ' I'll ask her when I feel that the time is right.' BIG FANCY MISTAKE. Later on that day, Tim caught me hanging around with the girls again and horror of horrors no.1, he started to tell condom jokes. ¬¬ The girls left for the playground and I was busy mouthing at him when Shane said ' I'm gonna ask Louise out for ya!'. ' COME BACK HERE, YOU SMEGHEAD!!!' was my first reaction, so I chased him to the playground where we met Louise again. I was beating him up to try and stop him, but horror of horrors no.2, he said it. ' *real name* really fancies ya, would you like to go out with him?' If that weren't enough, her reply was ' NO!' and she, with her friends ran back inside for lessons, with me heart-broken and everyone else jeering and laughing around me. I told one of the teaching staff, who spread the word to the head mistress, who spoke to Shane. Shane apologised and said that he'll apologise to Louise when she goes home. I forgave him, but I have decided to explain to her about the whole thing tomorrow. The thing is, what do I say? Should I tell her that what Shane said was true, but the whole thing went awry before it even started? What do you think I should say to her? PLEASE reply ASAP.
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Post by bocodiseasel on Mar 5, 2006 20:37:56 GMT
The girls left for the playground and I was busy mouthing at him when Shane said ' I'm gonna ask Louise out for ya!'. ' COME BACK HERE, YOU SMEGHEAD!!!' Wow! Shane must be acting like a real Rimmer at the moment for you to call him that!! ;D
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Post by dragonfox on Mar 5, 2006 20:42:58 GMT
The girls left for the playground and I was busy mouthing at him when Shane said ' I'm gonna ask Louise out for ya!'. ' COME BACK HERE, YOU SMEGHEAD!!!' Wow! Shane must be acting like a real Rimmer at the moment for you to call him that!! ;D Whilst I found that reply funny, it doesn't really help me in my problem, I'm afraid. EDIT: Too late. Me internet's gonna shut down in a couple of minutes and I am clueless on what to do about this incident. Of course, I wouldn't have time to check up on replies in the morning, so sorry guys, but you've rather let me down on this. Still, it's a pretty complicated situation, so I can't really blame any of you for it.
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Post by Nanaki on Mar 6, 2006 5:58:31 GMT
Lemme see, love life, love life, love life... *ahem* My first real crush was waaaaaaay back in Kindergarden. There was this tall, attractive blonde girl that got held back two years (I'm serious). I really liked her and when I got a Lionel watch (with working sound and moving train thingy!) I tried to show it to her, but it broke right in front of her face. She thought I was nuts and she walked away. Back in 6th, there was this girl I really liked named Maria...she smelled nice I asked her friend to ask if she liked me, ended up getting told off by Maria the day before the last day of school. I acted like it wasn't a big deal, everyone laughed at her, and she ended up feeling pretty embarassed. She so far has never spoken to me again. Third crush was during my older brother's Bar-Mitzvah party. One of the hosts was a pretty young brunette that I ended up getting really shy around. At the end of the party I gave her some chocolate and walked away. Fourth crush was in 8th grade, after I had switched to a private school. Her name was Tiana, and she was the kinda friend that you could tell really liked me. I even went over her house once. She disappeared in December that same year, and I haven't heard from her since, although I saw her *coughhomosexualcoughcough* older brother at a McDonalds. Yeah, my love life sucks. >.<
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Post by dragonfox on Mar 6, 2006 15:58:25 GMT
UPDATE: It's official. She hates me now. I didn't bother trying talk to her today, because she kept running away from me all day, so sorry, but I've come to the conclusion that love was made by the devil so that God's followers could break one of the Ten Commandments; 'Do not commit adultery'. I don't think I'll be that lucky again. Tim, Shane, you two are a couple of smegheads! (Sorry about bringing in personal threats, no-one will be harmed... Phsyically, anyway. )
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Post by bocodiseasel on Mar 6, 2006 16:14:42 GMT
Don't worry mate. There are plenty more fish in the sea. I'm sure you'll find another girl soon.
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Post by Locomotive on Mar 6, 2006 17:26:33 GMT
*sigh* where do I begin?
Well, my first crush was on a fictional TV show character called Alex, who then became my imaginary friend for the rest of my child life. Eventually I broke up with her the few first weeks of High school. But then again, I was secretly in love with a real person at the time. This girl was nice, she visited me at least once a week, and invited me out with her friends, and we played. Although, and I admit this, I was a bit stupid in my primary years, and they used this as their "entertainment". I only realised this when puberty kicked in, trust me, you start to think clearly when this happens, it was a soul breaking experience, and it showed me a lot more than what she did.
My second crush was this girl in High school, at the time I didnt like her as much, but her name came out in a conversation during my first year at college, and I though "She likes me, maybe she could be the one." However, fate, as it seems, is not without a sense of irony (Matrix reference). I finally sent her an e-mail telling her of my feelings, but a day after, I finally realised what I had done! I spent the entire day, and the entire morning of the next day thinking of what was going to happen, and it wasnt pleasent. I was visiting my old high school at the time, finally she came, and asked me to talk to her in private (You can imagine me saying "gulp"). Thankfully, she let me down gently, which is a godsend compared to the day-nightmares I have been having.
And then, my 3rd crush. This girl I met on Deviantart, she was very nice, and she was a good friend. Finally, she said enough for me to believe something could happen, so I sent her an e-mail, only this time I thought very hard as to how I was to approach this, and the word "love" I thought was too strong a word (didnt use it). I got an e-mail back saying it made her day, and made her happy. I couldnt believe it! I was the happiest person in the world. And then, just as I thought things couldnt get any better, it didnt. For I then found out something rather disturbing. I found out her age, and lets just say it was below 16. I couldnt go on with it, if people found out I was in love with a girl that age they will think I am "something I am not!", and I couldnt bare it. So I had to dump her. After a long week of waiting, I got a reply, she said that we completely misunderstood each other, and she didnt even want a boyfriend to begin with. So technically, she wasnt even my girlfriend at all. Thankfully, she is still my friend, and a good one at that, which is good, I wasnt confident I would get that lucky a second time.
So thats my lovelife.
Why cant I get a girlfriend? I see plenty of people in my college who lack all consistancies of being friendly and caring to just about anything in this world yet they have TWO girlfriends. Not only that, but every girl I have encountered so far in my college have either been taken or are just total bi*****, so as you can imagine its pretty hard for me to go up to a total stranger and come up with the words "hi". I'm gonna die all alone here, I'm lucky to even have friends at this stage, I actually WANT to give them money and date them, and I am very funny and I know how to treat a woman right, what am I doing wrong? T_T
If anyone wants to help then by all means do, but just so you know I am not really all that confident in this category anymore, and I want to be, I just want to meet somebody who will love me for who I am, so far no one wants to date a total anime adicted train enthusiest with asperger syndrome, not even the thought of dating the Second Best Pokemon trainer in all the Mersey can get to them (The First best is a friend of mine, he doesnt care for the subject).
Ok having said that I now wanna know if anybody likes me at all, its hard being me, especially at college. Obviously overcoming this subject is hard for me to let go but thats my facts entirely, I would even give my Ho-oh EX card (Rarest Card I HAVE!) to any girl who will love me the way I do, I just want to settle in with a nice girlfriend without anything going wrong T_T
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Post by primus on Mar 6, 2006 17:51:44 GMT
Chill man. Seriously, i thought the same way you do. I didn't have a proper gf until i was 17. I had a spate of rather naff relationships and each time i kept thinking, "she's the 1 alright!" ;D O boy did i learn the hard way with a couple of 'em! But i'm a romantic and each time i got hurt but it stil hasn't stopped me. If it had, i wouldn't be engaged. It's taken six years of dating, trying to date etc before i found the right one. The daft thing is, i said no to this girl a year and a half ago. If i'd of said yes i could be married by now! Stick in mate, you never know when love will slap you in the face with a big HELLO!
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Post by Locomotive on Mar 6, 2006 19:11:05 GMT
Chill man. Seriously, i thought the same way you do. I didn't have a proper gf until i was 17. I had a spate of rather naff relationships and each time i kept thinking, "she's the 1 alright!" ;D O boy did i learn the hard way with a couple of 'em! But i'm a romantic and each time i got hurt but it stil hasn't stopped me. If it had, i wouldn't be engaged. It's taken six years of dating, trying to date etc before i found the right one. The daft thing is, i said no to this girl a year and a half ago. If i'd of said yes i could be married by now! Stick in mate, you never know when love will slap you in the face with a big HELLO! I admit, everytime I spill my guts and cry about this, I get the same lecture slapping me in the face, and I mean that in a good way. Still, I will kick back, in fact, I better start dancing to song. *Listens to "I get knocked down-I cant remember the singer but it was a football related song I think"
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Post by Kate669 on Mar 6, 2006 21:42:23 GMT
Tubthumping by Chumbawamba. *winks*
I know how you feel, sweetie...more so than you think. The trick is to not go searching; they always come along when you least expect it! Just let things flow, and your time will come.
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Post by Chris The Xelent on Mar 6, 2006 21:55:11 GMT
Too right. I can back that up from my own experience.
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Post by Penguin on Mar 6, 2006 21:58:54 GMT
I know how you feel, sweetie...more so than you think. The trick is to not go searching; they always come along when you least expect it! Just let things flow, and your time will come. Bingo. That's how it's always worked for me, at least. Then again, perhaps I'm just lucky.
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Post by Rheneas on Mar 6, 2006 22:07:55 GMT
I'm too shy to even start a relationship...There was this one girl I really liked, and unfortunately, I found out right before I mustered enough courage to talk to her that she was taken! It's also unfortunate that EVERYONE in the flipping grade HAS to tease me about this other girl that I don't like! It's been going on for the past 5 YEARS!!!
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Post by stuart7 on Mar 6, 2006 22:35:26 GMT
I had to learn the hard way about girlfriends and so forth myself, lads. Problem is I'm either too nice with these people or I try too hard to impress people with my talents, i.e, acting or dancing, or writing, and sometimes (quite unfairly) I'd get into trouble purely for that. Sometimes, I wondered if there was a bright side to life as Eric Idle suggests. Stuart
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Post by Cranky on Mar 6, 2006 22:46:47 GMT
Well, Update on my part as well, and small note to Df, dont worry mate, things will get better eventually....... But anyways, theres a girl I like, 10th year, same as me. She sent me a message over myspace saying if she knew me or not, and eventually we began to talk over msn, and yea, she was really nice. Moving to today. Me and a couple mates of mine where in the library working, when my stupidest chum went and started some comment war over myspace, whihc I got onvlolved in. About 5 mins later. the girl walks in, me, being to shy to wave *sigh* So my idiotic friend comes over and does some weird stuff, like smack my computer, the girl keeps looking at me, laughing a bit. Me, completley shattered, walked out. And now i don't know what to do, my mates say I should ask her out to a movie........but I don't know what to do now............ Im Lost, anyone, please help
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