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Post by Rusty Red Scrap Iron on Nov 2, 2009 17:46:53 GMT
First of all, I'd like to say that I wish you all the best with Ryan's advice, Nicholas, hopefully it should work out for you and I'm sorry if I meant any bad inconvenience by trying to make you take the easy way out of something that could easily be solved.
Now on to Tayhan:
I'm glad you've found Lancaster an amazing town (though I've never actually been). For your advice, though I've never experienced something like this but I've seen alot of these situations before on TV (which some may say is not relevant). But what's more important, a relationship which may last only a few months or your future.
6 months is better than nothing at all, granted it is short but at least you can say you had something. Alot of people would but their future first, but there's also nothing wrong with being friends. Granted you don't want to upset this Girl, but then again if you stay in contact and remain friends then you've lost nothing. If she mets someone else, whose to say that they would last together.
Just try to explain to her (if you end up in a relationship) that your future in whatever occupation you want to means alot to you (depending on what it is you want to do, and how passionate you are about doing it). Relationships come and go and believe me 6 months is better than nothing, at least you can say that you had something.
As I say, your future life in whatever occupation you want to end up in is more important. Relationships come and go, for all you may know she may not be the one your destined to spend the rest of your life with. It may sound harsh and disheartening, who knows you may meet someone in Uni.
But whatever decision you make, I'm sure this Girl would understand. I hope things workout for you, Tayhan.
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Post by Eisenheim on Nov 2, 2009 19:04:31 GMT
Well I have to say only a very few things: Thank you to Ryan and Nicholas, and good luck to Tayhan and Nicholas, once again.
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Post by Assassin on Nov 12, 2009 7:33:16 GMT
This is a bit of an odd issue, but I can't go any longer without saying at least the bare essentials.
To put it simply, there's some I hate, despise, detest and loathe beyond all comprehension, but I shouldn't. He's actually quite nice, and I'm not completely sure why I dislike him so much. It may be that I'm just jealous, but If that's the case, I shouldn't be feeling this many negative emotions. Why am I feeling so hostile to someone who's done nothing to me?
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Post by Rusty Red Scrap Iron on Nov 14, 2009 10:57:31 GMT
Well Assassin, it depends what he's got or done as to why it's making you feel jealous.
I've had this sort of thing happen to me when I was at high school, quite a few times over Girls I've liked because Guys would get on so well with them and I wasn't getting anywhere. But in the end it started to gradually went away.
As I say Assassin, it all really depends what this person has done or has that you haven't done or don't have that is making you feel hostile or whether there's just something about this person that you don't like which you just don't know about.
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Post by shinystanley on Nov 19, 2009 22:50:33 GMT
I have got something up with an old friend.
We used to be best friends when he first came here. He waited a year while me and my other friend, Kyle, came to college where I am at, then he came when we were sophomores. Well, he has this girlfriend who lives where we do and she came here this year. With a job, marching band, school and a girlfriend of my own, who I never get to see hardly, I never have time for much these days. He thought I was mad at him. I told him I was busy. Well Kyle recently told me that he still thinks I am upset with him, even though I said I wasn't. Well I try to show him in rehearsal with a hello and how are you doing, but he is short and kept to. Kyle also told me his girlfriend doesn't care for my girlfriend at all. Its very frustrating because we have done nothing! His girlfriend is still stuck in high school its seems. Any advice?
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Post by shanedooiney on Nov 20, 2009 22:58:45 GMT
Well, Shiny Stanley, my best advice would be for you all to talk it out. There's a misunderstanding wedged in there somewhere, and you'll never find out what it is unless you communicate.
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Post by MRHloco on Dec 4, 2009 21:25:02 GMT
I must admit, I've never really considered posting in this thread before... But I am in need of advise now. Mainly, it concerns a new camera that recently arrived - a Kodak M381 to be precise. It's a reliable and working camera and it's intended to take full quality pictures. And, I'm happy to say, it does. But... Unfortunately, a lot of the pictures it's taken for me so far have come out rather fuzzy and not completely clear. My father and I have already been investigating the problem and we've discovered that reducing the picture size to around 6 megapixels seems to have helped. But I reckon there's more to it than that. I've been testing the camera this evening and all the images I've taken so far have come out with the same fuzzy results. Not blurred but not crystal clear either. Which I find rather odd since I thought we'd overcome the problem. Does anyone else have a Kodak M381? Have you ever experienced this sort of problem before? And whether you have or not, what do you reckon I should do to further overcome the problem. I'm desperate to do so before I head north for York next Thursday. If anyone can advise me, I'd be most grateful. Warm Regards As Always, MRHloco
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Post by Jim Prower on Dec 15, 2009 16:55:18 GMT
Need help on a couple things. a friend of mine on MSN, a very talented content creator for MSTS and Virtual Sailor, Is pretty down on his luck, lately. I suppose I should start with those issues, first... You see, despite his talent, he has a tendency to get into spats with some of the pushier members of either community. He left Train-Sim.com after a religious debate (those of you who went there at the time may remember it and who it is,) and, as for VS...well, that community appears to be filled with rather "needy" people, (can u make dis 4 me?) as well as complete and total trolls. Thank you complete and utter lack of moderation. The problem is that his site where he hosts his add-ons has either been seriously hacked, or has serious problems, and he can no-longer distribute his wares. This has sent him into an absolute tizzy, and he's really focusing on how much people don't appreciate his work. Needless to say, this makes MSN conversations extremely depressing. I don't know how much you people work with aspies (he, like me, is one,) but I'd really like to cheer him up and help him get back on his feet. I'd especially like to help him get his site back up, or find a place for him where he'd be really and truly appreciated, but I don't have the knowledge, technical or otherwise, to do so. If you like, I can link you to his YT channel, where you can see examples of his work in both sims. www.youtube.com/user/JonatanGronoset
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Post by Tayhan on Dec 15, 2009 17:52:44 GMT
Oh Jonatan? I knew he was having problems with his site, but I didn't think it was as much as this! Well, I can tell you ow that I for one was a fan of his work, and was a regular visitor to his website. Speaking as an Aspie myself, I understand entirely how he must be feeling if he's feeling his work is under-appreciated. My advice to him on that level would be to try advertising his work more. Maybe put them on another website, or make more videos of them on his YT account. And in regard to the issues of trolls and n00bs, my advice to him is the same as everyone dealing with similar troubles: Tell them plainly, firmly and bluntly, NO! Nein! Nada! Zilch! But only for those who ask in the same manner, for the others, state your reasons, (i.e. school/work/college etc) and leave it at that. But if they don't seem to grasp the concept, tell them again, and again, and again. If the problem consits, report them to the site admin. And if they start a bawlfest for what they percieve as an 'unfair ban', you should tell them that they have been told repeatedly, and for good reason. If they chose to ignore and persist, as many people have, then its their own fault. I hope Jonatan finds this advice helpful, and that he is able to overcome his problems All the Best, Tayhan
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Post by Jim Prower on Dec 15, 2009 19:09:13 GMT
Well...he already is extremely blunt with them, and, with VS, the Administration will allow a banned member back in if they complain, from what I understand. On the MSTS side, he was alienated by a few prominent members of the community for his religious beliefs...he's atheist, they were extremely conservative christian.
At least, I'll let him know you like his work, and I hope you would, too.
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Post by Metamorphical on Dec 25, 2009 1:12:38 GMT
I must admit, I've never really considered posting in this thread before... But I am in need of advise now. Mainly, it concerns a new camera that recently arrived - a Kodak M381 to be precise. It's a reliable and working camera and it's intended to take full quality pictures. And, I'm happy to say, it does. But... Unfortunately, a lot of the pictures it's taken for me so far have come out rather fuzzy and not completely clear. My father and I have already been investigating the problem and we've discovered that reducing the picture size to around 6 megapixels seems to have helped. But I reckon there's more to it than that. I've been testing the camera this evening and all the images I've taken so far have come out with the same fuzzy results. Not blurred but not crystal clear either. Which I find rather odd since I thought we'd overcome the problem. Does anyone else have a Kodak M381? Have you ever experienced this sort of problem before? And whether you have or not, what do you reckon I should do to further overcome the problem. I'm desperate to do so before I head north for York next Thursday. If anyone can advise me, I'd be most grateful. Warm Regards As Always, MRHloco I'm by no means an expert on cameras or photography. I did pull up the specs for this Kodak EasyShare M381. I can't find many professional reviews and none of the ones I've found are real negative. Alot of the user reviews are pretty mixed with others experiencing blurry picture. Have you tried lowering the ISO settings? Also try turning off and on the AntiBlur, the software that controls that does not work nearly as well as a true Optical Image Stablizer. If all else fails maybe you could do an quick exchange and see what a second Kodak of this model is like.
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Post by shinystanley on Feb 25, 2010 14:58:56 GMT
I need some advice fellas. Two weeks ago, I had a screw in my tire, then last weekend my car's blinker/brights switch broke off, leaving my brights on, then today, I wake up extra early to observe classrooms and my car is stuck in park! Not to mention my girlfriend and me are through.... What a fortnight! Trying to look on the brighter side, but its not looking too hot. Next set of advice I need: Since me and my gf broke up, there is this girl. She has a boyfriend, but I have only REALLY known her for about a week. She is very interesting... I know this is "DANGER ZONE" stuff here, but I can't help but feel she feels the same... Here are the signs that make me think this: -She talks to me for hours at a time and thinks I'm hilarious. -She invited me to the BCM (Baptist Campus Ministries) to "show off her new friend Michael" as she said. -She loves my music and trains. -She asked for my number last night. (I've only known her for a week!) Another thing is that we talked about my breakup last night and I told her how my ex liked a guy while we were dating. I told her that my slate wasn't clean either and that I liked someone else once when we dated. She kept asking who it was. Stupid me said it was long ago in high school (She knows I dated my ex for 2 years and I'm a Junior in college! (slaps head )) She also looks me straight in the eye for long periods of the time when we talk and doesn't look away. Need some help here guys. -
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Post by Rusty Red Scrap Iron on Feb 25, 2010 15:33:56 GMT
I know what your going through Shiny Stanley, I went kind of the exact same thing last year. Luckily for me, I knew what not to do in the end.
It sounds like from here, that she is interested in you. But all the same, she does have a Boyfriend. I know it's not right to show your true feelings to a Girl whose already dating someone else because it could lead to a ruined friendship, plus you point out that you've only know her for a week.
If I were you, I'd probably ask her how things are going with her current boyfriend. But try not to make it sound like: 'Oh I wish you'd dump him and go out with me', because that would be wrong for a Girl to dump someone she's doing okay with in favour of you. Ask her to be honest with you about how things are going with her current boyfriend, like I said without trying to make it sound like what I pointed out.
If she admits that things aren't so well, just try and give her the best advice possible with making it sound like: 'dump him, dump him'. Just give her a friendly advice. If she admits that things are going well, then you should just remain friends and don't say how you really feel. Like I said, I went a similar situation last year but with some good advice from those on SiF I got through my feelings for a Girl I'd liked and we remained friends.
See if this helps, plus perhaps ask some of your offline friends for advice also. I'm sure someone may have some better advice then what I may have suggested.
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Post by shinystanley on Feb 25, 2010 16:06:17 GMT
Thanks Rusty Red Scrap Iron. I thought about doing that, but I didn't want to overstep the boundary. Apparently we are great friends now, since when she found out I was going to be here for the weekend and she told me if she wasn't going home, she would hang out with me. I'll give it a try. They went out because the guy wanted a one night stand and she said no, then he asked another girl and she got jealous. They didn't do anything, but they are 5 mnths along now... Last thing too... The night before when my girlfriend and I ended it, she laughed and said exactly this: "lol... well you see, when you first worked here I thought... you were cute."
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Post by Evening Star on Feb 28, 2010 4:46:25 GMT
So I could use some good healthy advice here.
I recently was asked out by a girl whom I liked and everyone had been telling me to make a move on. All good, right?
Wrong.
The day after, one of my friends who shall remain nameless was sitting in a corner, she looked like she'd been crying.
Uh oh.
After some inquiry, the whole ugly affair came to light. She had been pressuring the person who asked me out to do so for a while, but didn't actually think she would. Turns out Person Two also likes me.
Great.
So I'm stuck throwing a good friend under the bus, and I hate that. Oh well. At least they didn't get in a catfight. I suppose I should be laughing. I went from being the guy nobody would date to a rare commodity in approximately 24 hours.
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Post by Vortexior on Feb 28, 2010 19:06:49 GMT
Gentlemen (and possibly ladies), I need some advise. I know this maynot be a good place to ask this sort of advise, but I'll give it a crack.
I've been talking to this girl from one of my uni lectures for sometime (both during uni and on facebook), and she just asked if she wanted to have a drink with me after an assignment has been handed in. I gladly took up this offer, since I haven't really been given this sort of offer before.
Is there any sort of advise you guys can offer to make sure I don't screw up this get-together?
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Post by Rusty Red Scrap Iron on Feb 28, 2010 19:36:30 GMT
Well Vortexior, the most important advice I can give is just be yourself.
I know you've obviously done that having talked to her on facebook and at Uni, but always be yourself. Try not to be nervous about thinking 'what if it doesn't workout, what if she gets together with someone else'.
But generally just be yourself, and if you screw up then there's plenty of fish in the sea as the phrase goes. Even if things don't work out, it's not the end of the world. But generally, just be yourself. Also if you embarrass yourself while out for a drink, then don't worry about because these things happen to people (I personally haven't gone through that, but I'm sure there are plenty of people who have).
But as I say, just be yourself. Make the impression that you like her, try not ask the obvious question that most Guys ask 'Have you got a boyfriend?' (If you've already asked that already, then you won't need to worry. But I'd generally just avoid that question).
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Post by Tayhan on Mar 7, 2010 17:41:23 GMT
Me in need of some advice again.
Well, I've recently discovered that my university offers are in fact conditional, so I basically have to get C's in all my exams to be able to get the 220+ points to do the course I want to do in Lancaster. And thats about as likely to happen as HIT Entertainment hiring Christopher Awdry as a scriptwriter!
So, I've reached a decision. If in the event that I don't get enough points to get into my course, I will take an apprenticeship in metalworking, namely blacksmithing. It's something I've always been interested in, and something I can do as well as my writing.
I've wanted to be a writer for a while, but somewhere along the line I forgot about becoming an author and thought more and more about the life of a student. I've had advice from some quite well known authors...well, author, who has advised me not to put too much faith into such courses. And not meaning to sound arrogant (and probably failing quite dismally), but I'm not a bad writer, and will hopefully get published at some point. But if I'm learning a skill like metalworking, then I've got a chance of getting a job almost as soon as my apprenticeship is done.
Anyway, thats just my thoughts. Could anyone else give me some advice? Is my plan sound, or should I aim for one goal rather than waiting to see what happens?
Al the Best, Tayhan
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Post by gotSTEAM? on Mar 11, 2010 23:54:58 GMT
I have recently come to believe that I am really, truly, a terrible person.
I have shot myself in the foot, more than once. I made some bad choices in the last year, and quite a few this year too. All involving my ex-boyfriend... he really is a bad apple, and I learned it the hard way.
But the trouble doesn't lie with him so much, it's what I sacrificed for him. I sacrificed time, money, effort... and perhaps most of all, I sacrificed a good friend. Someone who probably would've stood by me until the end, but I was too foolish to see that. Too wrapped up in what I wanted, too focused on how I wanted to feel, not what this person felt for me.
I recently dreamed about this person, quite vividly in fact. I guess now maybe I have a different thought about them... not like it matters, since it's my fault that I lost them. I highly doubt they'll come around and be friends again... so, what do I do? Talk to them and say I'm sorry? Just deal with it?
~Elizabeth
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Post by Ryan on Mar 12, 2010 0:12:07 GMT
We all make choices in life and sometimes, they're not the right ones. However, given the fact that you're big enough to admit you've been wrong here says a lot for you. You're not a bad person. You're human.Go to your friend, speak to them and tell them what's happened. If it's true friendship then you won't be turned away.
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